Or is my Mum?

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I love my Mum, I have a great relationship with her and she loves my DS to bits, however she is a bit nutty when it comes to weaning DS. A typical conversation goes like this

MUM "Are you weaning DS yet?"
ME "No Mum he is only 4 Months old, far too little and just not ready yet."
MUM "Oh don't listen to all the advice it changes all the time, just follow you own instincts."
ME "I am following my own instincts, he just isn't ready yet."

Anyway, the other day we were having tea and biscuits and we have the above conversation yet again. DS was on my Mums lap, she proceeds to dunk a digestive in her tea and give it to DS!!!

I am annoyed for three reasons

1. FGS how many more time do I have to say HE IS NOT READY FOR WEANING!
2. A digestive biscuit dunked in sugary tea, WTF hardly great weaning food!
3. Maybe I'm being a bit PFB but I was looking forward to giving DS his first taste of anything other than milk and now I can never get that back - I feel like my mum has stolen that experience from me.

Am I being AIBU to be pissed off with my Mum? I would never fall out with her over this but just wondered what other peoples views were?

pointy there wasn't any recent research. Some scientists merely looked at some old research and said that there was a need for new research. No new research or studies were done.

Dita,

I'm aware that it was meta-analysis, i.e. analysis of other people's research. That's still research.

And IMO they were right to point out the need for more research, there is so much dogma around concerning weaning age that it's a wonder new mums don't die of guilt the moment they give birth.

I think you're more annoyed because you didn't get to do the 'first'. Is it really that important to you? Your DS isn't going to care nor remember it. A soggy biscuit isn't going to harm him for life either, is it?

I'm not saying you're doing this, OP, but there seem to be more and more threads with the mother hovvering over their own mothers and MILs particularly, wanting to supervise every little thing and almost daring them to have an opinion about their precious DCs. It's a bit sad really.

I'd chill out about the first moment thing or you will seriously stress out. What happens if dc walks or talks for first time when yr not in the room. My dd took her first steps with my mum and brother when I was in loo.
I was sad but what could I do? You will have loads of time go try new things on yr dc and it gets boring really fast.

You're right I am annoyed about not doing it "first" and I know its a little bit PFB but I think it was because it was combined with something i had expressed my wishes for her not to do.

At the moment he is only having 3 or 4oz at a time and is in the bottom 0.4 percentile. He has bad reflux and his stomach has only just settled down. Which alongside his complete lack of interest in food make me thonk he isn't ready for weaning.

My Mum also keeps telling me to let him cry it out, but that is a whole other thread . I just put it down to the generational thing because she isn't normally a mad woman!

Think not thonk!

Yes I can understand that as she did undermine you.