to be cross about this?

[iloveblue]

I don't think I am, but I wanted to see what other people think.

We lost our baby at 20 weeks gestation on 22nd October last year. We have no idea why.
They took lots of blood to test from me and we agreed to a full post-mortem on the baby.
When in hospital we were told we would hear from the consultant in 8 weeks. It also says this on the literature we were given.

Fast forward to 8 weeks later - have heard nothing from the hospital, so I rang the consultant's secretary who said it is 12 weeks not 8, and they keep telling the staff on the maternity ward this, but they still keep misadvising people.

So, we still had not heard anything after 12 weeks so I rang again - and they were still waiting for the full PM results (from Birmingham Womens Hospital - which is where the babies are sent) plus the consultant was about to go on leave.

It was 14 weeks last Friday still no word from the hospital - and we have just discovered that I am pregnant again. I rang the secretary again on Monday - who said that yes the results were all back and on consultants desk, and they would ring in the next few days to make an appointment. I also informed her of the new pregnancy.

The secretary (who has been lovely and very sympathetic through all this) has just left a message on our answerphone - offering us an appointment for the 15th March! Another 6 weeks away (almost 5 months in total). Not only that but it isn't at our local hospital - as the consultant doesn't have a clinic there.
We don't have a car at the moment - ours broke down and we are managing without one for 6 months, while we save up for a new one. This isn't a major problem as I know we could get the train/bus or someone would give us a lift - but I'm just completely fed up. By the 15th March I will be 11/12 weeks pregnant and if there is something I need to be doing (eg taking aspirin etc) then I need to know now.

I am going to ring the secretary back in a bit but just wanted to see if it is just me and my raging hormones or if anyone else agrees with me that this seems a bit ridiculous.

so sorry you've got this worry hanging over you, too. It sounds like the secretary was reassuring, but you need it from the horse's mouth !!

I would call the GP surgery now and ask them if the GP can call you.

I have calmed down a bit now thanks - will ring GP I think.

ilove - did you manage to get through to the surgery?

Early pregnancy is a very hormonal time without all of this additional worry. Of course you are going to be nervous after last time. I can't believe they are so 'oh well, we're busy' about it :(

I hope you can see your GP and they can get some info/your appointment moved forward.

6 more weeks is mad when they told you it would be 6 weeks originally - months ago :(

Thanks Chipping
I havn't tried the surgery yet - have had a cup of tea and a scone instead.
I need to get my thoughts in order so I don't sound like a blathering hormonal idiot!

Ah Blue I'm so sorry for your loss and the long wait you've ad regrding the PM....I think you should speak to the GP about the new pregnancy aswell. It's not unheard of t wait that long for a first appointment...but cnisidering what you have just been through I should have hoped you'd get more support.

Congratulations on your pregnancy though, it's wonderful news.

Thanks wimple

OOhhhhh a cup of tea and a scone - sounds lovely :)

Mine weren't homemade unfortunately - that would have cheered me up!

Well, I'm still sat here so I'm thinking the closest I'm likely to get to it is a chocolate biscuit Not quite the same!!!

No - not quite the same Chipping, hope you're still not sitting and dreaming of scones.

Well, I have to say the biscuit wasn't quite the same :( may have to buy make scones tomorrow :) >today