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to be cheeky and ask you all...

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berri · 02/02/2011 12:01

....if you have any tips on how to help me stop my DS pushing other children over, to please pop over to the behaviour section with any advice :)

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bidibidi · 03/02/2011 04:26

Hover to prevent it and lecture and apologise after it happens (very important the DC do some token apology gesture), some kids are very slow to grow out of it, though.

skybluepearl · 03/02/2011 05:36

time out?

skybluepearl · 03/02/2011 05:36

or take him home...

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berri · 03/02/2011 10:03

Currently doing all of the above, think the general consensus is that he'll grow out of it - just so hard when it's been going on for months & I'm still hovering over him like a nutter when all the other mums are sitting having a chat! Have had comments as well implying he must be copying it from home which is ridiculous & hardly helpful!

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quitescared · 03/02/2011 10:20

I would actually try the tack of not lecturing or telling off when he does it as that gives him attention which is in itself a reward. My thoughts would be to just say something like 'that's not kind' to your child and then to go to the child he has pushed and give them lots of attention.

Will take a while but worth trying.

Hope this is of some help.

x

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berri · 03/02/2011 12:43

I know what you mean - I've kind of tried this but I always feel like I have to make him apologise in front of the other parent/child otherwise they'll think I'm not telling him off which is why it's reoccuring....

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woopsidaisy · 03/02/2011 13:52

Try getting the parent of the child he pushed to say something.
So he pushes someone,then get that childs parent to say,"you musn't do that. That is not very nice. I don't like it when you push my child" Or something along those lines You get my drift!
DS2 is a right little beggar for shoving at the school gates! Dad of one boy said to him,"don't do that please!" and DS2 ran to me sobbing! Gave him a real shock. I'm doing a star chart for him this week-his first,and he is doing great!
You have my sympathy though,it is no joke!

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berri · 03/02/2011 14:53

That's a good idea - perhaps I'll try it when we're at friends' houses at first and see if it works.

I was also thinking of starting a rewards system, but as I said on the other thread, I think he's actually too young at the moment to think to himself not to push so he is rewarded later, iyswim?

All sympathy gratefully received :o

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rubyrubyruby · 03/02/2011 14:55

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berri · 03/02/2011 15:50

Gosh don't - all I can see in my mind's eye are hundreds of barely-walking-babies landing on their bottoms like dominoes....

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quitescared · 03/02/2011 16:30

bottoms are better than faces ;)

quitescared · 03/02/2011 16:31

...that should be Wink

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