To refuse to do any ironing?

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Dh and I both work full time, his is set shift hours, mine is 35 hours per wakings flexible-this in itself is a pain as I often don't get the full time to do it (shared childcare issues...) I also tend to do the majority of the housework (another issue but hey ho...)

When I do the laundry to save time I chuck as much as I can into the tumble dryer and fold it as soon as it done so that I don't need to do any ironing! Not a problem for myself, ds or dd but dh insists that I am shrinking all his tops and has 'demanded' that I don't tumble dry his tops.... Fine, so today I have chucked his tops out on the line and they will stay there until dry- could be a couple of days! They will be all creased of course but I refuse to iron the bloody things..... No doubt he will winge about that but aibu?

I'm another non-ironer. Don't even own an iron. Never understood the damn things.

Ironing is illogical. Why go to all the trouble to press clothes flat when you're going to put them on a body which is kind of round?

DO the tops actually shrink in the dryer or is he putting on weight? Just a thought! I quite like ironing actually and do pretty much do all the washing etc but it does piss me off if / when DP announces at 6.30 am that he has no shirts / pants etc. There are limits to the extent that I will inventory his wardrobe for him. He needs to TELL me if he is getting low on clean stuff.

YANBU - I hate ironing but as a SAHM these days I can't escape it. And I prefer things to be ironed.

When I was working, DH at some point stopped doing his ironing and seemed to expect me to do it.

His work shirts were the main point of contention, so we started taking them to the dry cleaner. £10 for 5 shirts a week was well worth it for avoiding arguments and "I haven't got any shirts" angst in the mornings.

When I was working I thought about using an ironing service but heard bad things from friends about their clothes coming back smelling of cigarette smoke or with burn marks.

How very sad that you need more childcare for your DD because your DH refuses to look after her. That should tell you everything you need to know about your relationship.

He doesn't need to sleep ALL DAY before a night shift. Work out what time he needs to go to bed and get up so that he gets 6 or 7 hours sleep (what he usually gets or needs or you both think is reasonable) before and after his shifts and tell him that he should be up the rest of the time playing with or looking after his kids and doing housework.

I think a lot of people use shift work to be lazy in bed (not generalising just have some experience of this). I think it is obviously disruptive to sleep patterns and may make you more tired but then so does having children.