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To feel angry all the time

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Mrswhiskerson · 02/02/2011 08:40

In the past year I have bought a house had a baby and got married which are all wonderful but were extremely stressful and I gt pnd , not long after I was diagnosed my dh came down with depression too and I had to basically forget how bad I felt to look after and worry a out him instead , I feel awful saying this but I don't really think he was that depressed he has had it in the past but I'm sure this time he just wanted to be at home with the baby and because he hates his job but has never made any effort to look for another one I am just sick of constantly worrying about him ,he is a hypochondriac too and there is always something fecking wrong with him . On top of all this he is never going to be bothered about making a better life for us it's up too me to get a good career and wage and the pressure of it is getting to me . I have family issues too despite all I have acheived this year my dad still criticises me
for not having passed my driving test yet and how my sister (who is sixteen) will be driving before me no mention of all the things I have done . My parents also resent the fact that my fil is rich and make me feel bad about how much he has helped us financially , all I get is how do you think it makes us feel ? Sorry for the rant I just feel angry and resentful all the time at the minute even about little things like not having enough money to go out ever ,ni sometimes feel like running away from it all which also makes me feel bad because I know how lucky I am .

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Mrswhiskerson · 02/02/2011 08:43

I would like to say that dh has many other good qualities too I fel a bit bad about giving hima bashing I don't have anyone I can talk too because I know they just see the things I have and think I have no right to complain. Iyswim

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zikes · 02/02/2011 08:53

I don't think yabu - it's hard to deal with someone else's depression especially when you're struggling through PND yourself - and it would have been nice if he'd supported you instead of you ending up having to be there for him. Resentment seems pretty normal to me for that situation.

Have you got throgh your depression or is it still there undealt with because of everything else going on?

As for the parents, all I can suggest is walking away or cutting them off when they start to criticise. What did yr dad expect you to do, refuse to accept help from yr dh's parents just so his ego wasn't punctured? He's being unfair.

clam · 02/02/2011 09:08

"all I get is how do you think it makes us feel?"

How they feel about it is their problem, not yours.

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