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To ask MIL not to buy my DC anymore...

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WimpleOfTheBallet · 01/02/2011 20:06

Angels? She believes in Angels...you know, not in the ordinary Chritian way...but in that cult fashion following of recent years....DC are 2 and 6 and MIL buys them Angel things all the time...crystal ones, gold ones on a chain,china ones, angel notebooks, angel pencils....she gives DH and I angel things too..there are so many around the house that it looks a bit weird....I don't want to offend her....she looks for them when she comes!

She also stuck some truly hideous "angel decals" on my French windows...you know those plastic see-through stickers for glass?

Well she rammed a couple on my windows whilst babysitting and thought I would be pleased! Is THAT weird or am I fussy?

She also stuck some on DDs bed head...bear in mind DD's bed head was beautifuly handpainted with roses which were ruined when I pulled the decals off!

So...AIBU to tell her to stop?

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MainlyMaynie · 01/02/2011 20:08

Not unreasonable at all and I think most MIL threads are unreasonable. I'd be v pissed off at someone decorating my house, whatever it was with.

Firawla · 01/02/2011 20:09

no yanbu sounds like she is taking it too far, sticking things on your windows and dc beds is overstepping the boundaries and needs dealing with

bubblewrapped · 01/02/2011 20:10

Decide that you like frogs, or vampires or something equally naff. Buy her lots of them, keyrings, fridge magnets, and stick a few on her windows too.. Wink

AgentZigzag · 01/02/2011 20:10

She sounds like she's trying to surround your DC with angels, and angels = protection from harm to her.

If she's pissing you off with it of course you have to say something.

You don't have to be rude or upset her, if she takes offence there's not a lot you can do, her choice.

5DollarShake · 01/02/2011 20:14

Oh God, angels...! Grin They really are the current fad, aren't they? Love it when people find white feathers inside and take it as concrete evidence of their existence, blatantly ignoring the fact that every cushion, pillow and duvet in every house in the land haemorrhages feathers....! Grin

YANBU by the way.

WhereYouLeftIt · 01/02/2011 20:17

She stuck things on your windows and furniture? Regardless of what they were, she IBU. YANBU to tell her to stop. And I'd also ditch all the crap angels she's given you. Indeed, I'd take pleasure in her noticing that it was gone. And more pleasure in telling her why.

ENormaSnob · 01/02/2011 20:18

Yanbu

I would be furious tbh

gordyslovesheep · 01/02/2011 20:25

yanbu at all - but good luck ! My MIL has been asked repeatedly not to buy either 'china' dolls (cheap ones with scary faces) or toy with no safety mark (inevitably deadly to the baby! and possibly the big girls) it hasn;t got through yet

she also has a thing for angels ... and fairies

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WimpleOfTheBallet · 01/02/2011 20:29

I was furious about the bed...it was bloody gorgeous and she brought these dodgy sticker things which took the finish off...I thought they'd peel off like British ones....they did but they took the paint with them!

Stupid! who would look at a gorgeous handpainted bed and think...Oh I'll just improve that with this massive,tastefull angel decal!

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InPraiseOfBacchus · 01/02/2011 21:30

Oh god, the angel thing is so tacky! All this new Mind Body Spirit nonsense... I call it "Chav Paganism".

It's totally not unreasonable to ask someone not to put adhesive stickers in your home without asking you.

While the "Angel crystals saved my baby" behaviour is tacky, it often comes about when someone has had a sad experience, or as a response to a tragically dull, wasted life. Could she be going through a difficult time? Maybe if you find other ways to help her out, she'll start to rely less on her angel friends for help.

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WimpleOfTheBallet · 01/02/2011 22:05

Yes Bacchus...she IS going through a bit of a time personally...so maybe I'll just quietly donate the stuff to charity!

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MsKLo · 01/02/2011 22:12

Yanbu at all

She should not be putting her beliefs on you! Tell her!

zipzap · 01/02/2011 23:14

And remember to mention that your dd's bed was ruined when if it comes up in conversation, that it was an expensive bed and the scary spooky angel tatty low quality stickers pulled off the beautiful paintwork.

OK so she's your MIL and you probably don't want her to buy another one/get this one repaired (well, dh doesn't want her to!) but she ought to realise that she's causing damage and that they can't be angels if they are causing damage Grin

Would stick everything in a box and ask her if she wants it back or wants you to give to charity shop or to ebay it...

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