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AIBU?

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To think my friend should just leave it?

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JustLeaveIt · 01/02/2011 19:39

My friend broke up with her boyfriend before Christmas, she broke up with him, but she is still following him around on Facebook and reading all his messages and conversations and talking about him all the time, saying how funny it is to stalk him and what a loser he is.

AIBU to think she should get over it and move on? She broke up with him, so why does it matter to her who he talks to or what he says?

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AgentZigzag · 01/02/2011 19:42

Yeah, she should perhaps knock it on the head, for her own sake as much as his.

Did he do something for her to want to break up with him?

compo · 01/02/2011 19:44

yabu
she's clearly still in love with him
maybe you're not such a good friend if you're so exasperated with her?

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JustLeaveIt · 01/02/2011 19:44

He didn't cheat on her or anything, it's not like she's checking up on him and the other woman.

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JustLeaveIt · 01/02/2011 19:45

If she's still in love with him why did she break up with him?

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Changing2011 · 01/02/2011 19:45

He should block her she sounds borderline abiusive.

AuntiePickleBottom · 01/02/2011 19:46

perhaps the ex should chance his password, so she can see the facebook page

HecateQueenOfWitches · 01/02/2011 19:46

Ask her why she's obsessed with him.

Is she waiting for him to fall apart with sadness at not having her in his life?

bullet234 · 01/02/2011 19:47

Is this a thread about a thread? Because wasn't there a thread recently with the OP writing about how she was doing what THIS OP is saying her friend is doing?

AgentZigzag · 01/02/2011 19:47

I don't think the OPs not a good friend because she's wondering why she's finding it hard to move on from him.

Has she said why she's can't move on?

AgentZigzag · 01/02/2011 19:48

And why hasn't he defriended her if they're not together?

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JustLeaveIt · 01/02/2011 19:49

Not a thread about a thread. A thread about a person.

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JustLeaveIt · 01/02/2011 19:49

She says it's funny. That's all. Says she doesn't care about him. If so, why not just leave it?

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HecateQueenOfWitches · 01/02/2011 19:51

Are you sure she broke up with him?

When you don't want to be with someone any more, you don't, if you are a normal person, talk about them all the time and track them on line.

AgentZigzag · 01/02/2011 19:52

Not unless you have some sort of control issues hecate.

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JustLeaveIt · 01/02/2011 19:57

Fairly sure she broke up with him. She seemed glad to be rid at the time. She says she's moved on. Just doesn't look like it.

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HecateQueenOfWitches · 01/02/2011 19:57

I think that falls under not being a normal person Grin

I am a total control freak and I would not say it is one of my more normal personality traits! Blush

HecateQueenOfWitches · 01/02/2011 19:58

ah, she'll be wanting him to declare that he can't live without her.

AgentZigzag · 01/02/2011 20:02

I'm partial to a bit of control as well Grin

If it were me, I might be having a nosy just out of interest as to what he was up to, if I slagged him off it'd be because I'd want to think that we broke up because he wasn't good enough for me.

Not really funny as such, and if she didn't care she'd never give him a second thought.

brightlightsandpromise · 01/02/2011 20:40

How old is your friend? 15?

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JustLeaveIt · 01/02/2011 20:59

LOL no she is not 15 she is in her 30s

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