To think my friends DH is bonkers and ungrateful

[Sarsaparilllla]

I went to see my mate last week, her & her DP have 2 kids, 2.5 and just over a month.

She told me her DH gets really annoyed because her mum keeps buying things for the kids which are in the sale. Clothes from Next or M&S, but in the sale - he thinks it's cheeky and threw a bag of stuff in the bin

She didn't seem to think it was a problem, I said if they weren't any good she should've taken them back and exchanged stuff, not thrown perfectly good brand new clothes in the bin because they were reduced... she got a bit annoyed with me, but I just think it's such a waste, am I wrong?

Man sounds like an idiot.

What did you actually say to her?

I said something like, 'He threw them all away? Really? You could've taken them back, especially the M&S ones, they're always great at exchanging things'

She said, 'Could I? DH just doesn't think it's fair that she'll only buy them things if they're reduced'

And I said, 'What if she'd taken the labels off and he didn't know they were from the sale?'

and she kinds went, 'hmmmmmm' and wandered off to make a brew.

To be honest, I think embarrassed is probably as good a description as much as annoyed, I don't think she'd considered that it was an odd thing for him to have done until I questioned it.

OMG, I rely on my mum to do a bit of bargain hunting for me and I am delighted if she comes with a bag full of sale goodies, she knows what is useful and tasteful and for us, it's a godsend. He sounds incredibly odd, I have never heard of people throwing sale clothes away unless they are horrid, I would have literally had a fight over the bin if my husband did that to things that anyone bought, let alone my mum. Weird.

Yanbu. So wasteful to bin them as even if not to his taste someone could make use of them

They can choose what their DC wear so I don't really have an issue with them rejecting stuff that's been bought for them, but putting it in a landfill BIN!!!! Terrible!!!!

What an utter, utter wanker. Snobbish, wasteful and abhorrent. I hope your friend is able to protect the DCs from his shitty attitude as they grow up or their worldview is going to be fucked. Throwing away decent, quality, brand new things because they were reduced price? Words fail me (almost - wanker keeps springing to mind)

This thread has nearly made me cry (i am very hormonal at the mo, so prob why). Have these people any idea how horrible, ungrateful and selfish they are!!!!!!! I would do anything, anything to have my DM buy my DCs anything. She would have loved looking for bargains for her GC.

On another note, would he throw anything out that his mother bought, or is it just hers?

What a wanker.

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boohoohoo, I think he'd throw away anything that wasn't up to his 'standards' tbh :(

Their DS is my godson and it makes me wonder if the gifts I've bought for him have been well received or if he thinks I've not spent enough :(

'Could I? DH just doesn't think it's fair that she'll only buy them things if they're reduced'

That's very strange.

Are you sure you're getting the full story? Your friends reaction sounds bit odd too TBH.

You can still get a month or so wear out of end of season clothes.

Without wishing to over-react, I'd be a bit worried about my friend if her DJ was like this. Could be the thin end of a the wedge

DH

My Mum and sis often buy sale items for my DD (as do I) and I am very grateful to them for doing it.

Kids clothes are so expensive these days and DD attends a school that does not have a uniform so I need as many clothes as I can get!

The DP sounds barmy and your friend should be ashamed of herself, she doesn't know how lucky she is to have such a nice Mum.

I very rarely buy anthing for my lot that isnt in the sale!!

The only time I would pay full price is when they really need something and there's no sales on or nothing I like (like say a new coat)

But, I buy for myself and DP in the sales too, I love a bargain and I think a lot of places like M & S and Next, the kids stuff is way over priced, sometimes I've bought sale stuff and still thought it was overpriced for the quality!

Must admit though I do like supermarkets clothing a lot of the time, Asda for my daughter and Sainsburys for me!

What an utter tosser.
My family live abroad and the neighbours couldn't send their little girl to primary, even though it was free, because they couldn't afford around £15 for uniform and school bag. She was also missing out on the free lunch (the one decent meal available to her all day) until we intervened to help.
So this makes me feel angry and sad.