To think I am probably a crap mother

[Knackeredmother]

It is 1pm. Neither I or my 2 children are dressed or have cleaned our teeth. They didn't get up till 9am or have breakfast till 10am. The house is a tip. I am so tired I could cry.
Have just worked 42 hours in 3 days. Ds has had 15 hospital admissions with bronchiolitis in the last 10 months and is on steroids and antibiotics as we speak and should probably be in hospital now. My daughter just had a week in hospital with a kidney infection.
It is lovely and sunny outside but I am too bloody exhausted to even get dressed. My poor kids deserve more and would love a trip to the park. My husband is just as tired but manages to take them out.
And before I get lots of 'you are depressed' replies, I'm really not. Seen my gp, score low for depression on the scales and clinically. I'm just knackered and crap at the mum thing.
I suppose I know Iabu but really wondered if anyone had advice how to pull my socks up and stop being so crap?

you sound like a fab mum to me

When we have periods like that (overworked, kids sick etc, especially the hospitalisation stuff) we call it 'survival mode' and figure we just have to get through it as best we can. That may mean extra tv for the kids etc, probably not much going out and basically grabbing any sleep and/or rest wherever we can.

Don't feel guilty in the slightest - things will get better (and your DS should eventually get stronger) and you have the rest of their childhood to enjoy taking them to the park etc. Go easy on yourself...

Well I feel so much better just from the support on here. I have signed up to fly lady (!) and am going to implement all of the incredibly useful, practical advice on getting organised you've all given.
Oh and am going to go easier on myself and get a cleaner!
And have just found out that a professional exam I sat after no sleep and no revision (and needed to pass to stay in my job,) I passed in the top 12% of the country!!!! Am so chuffed!

Congratulations Knackeredmother [impressed]. I'm sure the majority of that 12% didn't have it so hard coming up to that exam!

It was a medical exam and luckily for me there were lots if paediatric questions on sick kids. Lol!

Of not if, bloomin I phone

I hope you spent the wholeday in bed - sounds like things have been very exhausting.

You are not a crap mum, just a tired one.
Be kind to yourself.

And well done on passing your exam with such good marks.
You sound like a super mum to me.

Your not a crap mum at all. DS has had 5 admissions with bronchi/asthma/chest infections in the last 12 months. It is physically and mentally draining, it is equally as draining when they are home but ill. He came out of hospital last wednesday and I am still knackered and feeling like I am playing catch up now.

Nothing wrong with spending a couple of days snuggling up with the kids, if they are ill they will enjoy it. Leave the housework for a few days, or potter when you feel like it.

you're not crap, you're not depressed, you're knackered - makes you feel crap, makes you feel depressed.

See if you can get some help maybe?

God, what a slacker. Any good mother would have installed extra robot arms and motorised wheels on herself by now.

It's just one of those days! Stick the tells on and make cheese toasties! x

And here I was feeling sorry for myself because I've got the sodding flu and can't get warm no matter how high I turn the heating up.. DDs go to school, DH will take care of cooking and laundry - how lucky am I?

You're a hero.

Altinkum, how do you know the engineer is a virgin?

advice... get more sleep and do less

Not possible by the sound of it given the circumstances, be kind to yourself and realise how much you have done and that it is perfectly ok to feel tired and not go out for a couple of days. if h can manage to give you some time to sleep it is amazing how much more you can get done. good luck!

Lol at pointythIngs!!!
You are all very kind and I appreciate it.

Sirzy; it is bloody draining isn't it? How is your ds now? We seem to have slowed down with the frequency of admissions since ds started on monteleukast, could be worth considering for your ds?

He is still chesty but much better, on 4 hourly ventolin and his normal
Beckamethazone at the moment, hoping to reduce the ventolin soon. He sees his specialist in 2 weeks so I am going to ask if there is anything else he can have.

The attacks are -touch wood- getting less serious, last time he only needed oxygen for an hour whereas the first he needed hdu for 5 days!

Sirzy, sounds very much like my ds. Not needed oxygen at all since monteleukast. We are managing with 4 hourly inhalers too so fingers crossed, I had to beg the gp not to admit him on Monday!

My GP is useless with it all so we always end up in A and E and then admitted! Although I need to ask the consultant to give the GP permission to give him pred which will hopefully reduce the chance of us being admitted!

Hopefully they both grow out of it!