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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Mum left baby asleep in pram in front garden aghhh

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Booandpops · 31/01/2011 22:51

After reading all the mil posts on here. I thought I'd share this one. My own mum left my 3 mth dd in her pram in the front garden. It is a nice day she claims. We all did it when you were a baby. I went mad!!!!
Was I unreasonable?

My mil can be annoying but equally so can my own mother!

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bubblewrapped · 31/01/2011 22:54

My mum left me in my pram outside Boots and went home on the bus when I was 8 weeks old.

I was still there when she remembered and went back for me.....

I doubt there are any more baby snatchers around now than there were 40 years ago.

thisisyesterday · 31/01/2011 22:56

i leave my baby in the front garden all the time if he's asleep...
i odn't see the problem?

moaningminniewhingesagain · 31/01/2011 22:57

Depends really, if she left her there for 20 mins while she was cleaning the windows/doing some weeding, YABU.

If she left her there for 2 hours while she was watching Jeremy Kyle at full volume then YANBU.

And it used to be a very normal thing to do, leave a well wrapped baby outside in the pram for some fresh air

AgentZigzag · 31/01/2011 22:58

It was a while ago, but my granny used to leave her youngest in his pram in the garden while she fucked off to the shops.

On her bike.

Three miles away.

zikes · 31/01/2011 22:59

If it's an enclosed secure garden, the baby was well-wrapped and she was in ear-shot/view, I don't see the problem.

amistillsexy · 31/01/2011 23:00

I think it depends on how secure the front garden is, TBH. If it's a big front garden and she can see from the house, I would be ok about it, but if she couldn't see the pram and the garden is straight onto the road, I'd be a bit concerned.

babylann · 31/01/2011 23:01

Yikes. I'd be furious. But my parents won't even leave DD downstairs while they go to the toilet without checking their front and back doors are locked, and all windows are closed. We have all just grown up in an area where it pays to be cautious.

So I'd say you are being reasonable, personally. Was your mum in the garden too though, cause that'd change my opinion.

Grabaspoon · 31/01/2011 23:04

Ooops - I recently looked after a friends 6 month old and as she was asleep when we got back from the nursery run, I parked her in the front garden where I could see her - next to a large window - then went in and pottered about - popped upstairs, went into the kitchen,had a cuppa but kept an eye/ear out. She was out there about an hour.

Sure if I told my friend she wouldn't mind.

DuelingFanjo · 31/01/2011 23:04

Depends on the weather. Depends on the garden.

BluddyMoFo · 31/01/2011 23:05

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yogididabooboo · 31/01/2011 23:05

back garden in the summer i would have no worries at all.

frnt garden next to a main road with traffic and pedestrians able to access the garden iin the middle of winter...i'd rip her a new hole.

so depends really

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Booandpops · 31/01/2011 23:08

It was a large front garden not sheltered. She was cleaning etc. thing is she had a Lovely safe enclosed back garden and I had no objections to dd being left there for fresh air
I think she was doing it to be a bit "look at me with the new babe to the neighbours".

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OhBuggerandArse · 31/01/2011 23:10

I leave mine out in the garden. Even (v. well wrapped up & in super snuggly sleeping bag pod thing) in the snow, like some 1950s Truby Kinger. Obviously I keep an eye out and don'y leave them there wailing - but I honestly think the Fresh Air Is Good For Them.

bubblewrapped · 31/01/2011 23:10

So long as she could see the garden throughout this, then I really dont see any problem.

yogididabooboo · 31/01/2011 23:13

well if there was a perfectly adequate back garden then i can't see why. unless they went for a walk and she would find it difficult to get the pram through tehhouse and out to the garden?

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Booandpops · 31/01/2011 23:15

It's not the fresh air thing. That's great. In the back garden please. It's the fact she left baby for ages unattended while she got on with her chores she couldn't see pram fromCin the house. I couldn't understand it as the back garden is off the kitchin so she would have been nearby.

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MummyTubb · 31/01/2011 23:18

My Mum left DD (aged 3 months) in her pram completely out of sight round the side of the car (between the car and a hedge) when I was selling at a very busy cramped car boot sale. I went slightly mad, and her reaction was "well no-one's going to take her are they!" They hadn't, so as far as she was concerned she had done the right thing and I was over-reacting.

Faceonlyamothercouldlove · 31/01/2011 23:20

No problem if garden was secure and she could keep an eye on him. This was extremely common practice in the olden days of yore when I was a baby and my mum would often do this with my dc. They seemed to sleep well in the pram and be less fractious when returning from trips out rather than being disturbed.

wonderstuff · 31/01/2011 23:27

I used to leave my babe in the back yard, she would wake up the second she went in the house, she was very temperature sensitive.
My gran's favourite story is how she left my aunt out and there was a foot of snow on the pram when she went out to get her.

I think I might be a bit but not the end of the world.

babylann · 31/01/2011 23:30

I like my daughter having fresh air, but if the weather is so good, I'd just stay outside with her. I wouldn't feel safe leaving my baby outside without me, even if I could see her. The wall between us means I'm not going to be able to get to her fast enough if someone charges into the garden to grab her.

Not just humans though. Cats, dogs, birds, squirrels. Freak gusts of wind.

I just don't like it

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