To expect dh to text if he's going to be late home.

[littlebylittle]

We eat together as a family. Have agreement that dh will let me know if he will be late. Thus seems to be slipping. I know damn well that if he were going to be fifteen mins late for work meeting he'd let them know. I'd like the same courtesy. Have worked same hours as him today-both up at just before six with children am pregnant and tired. Feel I am owed same courtesy if not more than colleagues.

seems perfectly reasonable to me. When he comes home late make sure you've eaten his dinner. Put your feet up and take care of yourself x

Is he driving? He could be stuck in traffic, or have no signal if he is held up on the train.

He may not have known he was going to be late when he set off.

On the other hand if he did know, and could have sent a text, then YANBU.

I hate it when dh is late but don't let me no, not because I want to keep tabs on him or anything but usually I do have the dinner waiting.

A quick call or text don't hurt.

I think he should let you know if he will be over 15 mins late.
I have similar issues but have given up. My OH thinks it is acceptable to go to visit a friend promising to be back after a few hours. He often won't come back until the next day, about 18 hours. This happens every few months. I used to ring the hospital to see if he had been in an accident and would be in tears when he got home.
If you are cooking his tea then just shove it in the microwave. Pasta and mash potato are two foods that don't reheat well.

YANBU. . he should text. . .

if he keeps on doing it. . .then , er. . .dinner's in the dog !!

YANBU at all, manners cost nothing as my mum would say! Its only common courtesy to let you know if he is going to be late. My dh would always ring or text unless he was caught up in a meeting or somewhere that he couldnt use his phone. Sit him down this evening when the kids are in bed and just gently say you would appreciate a text or call to let you know when he is going to be late. Knowing men he probably hasnt even realised he is being thoughtless.

Thank you! I was b a bit u, as this isn't usual, and he'd had a tough meeting, but he actually left work late so knew he'd be late and that I'd have a houseful of children (slight exaggeration, but dd had friend for tea and it felt full!). Let him tell me about his tough day then did a bit of sulking then suggested in a grown up (ish) way that he should text if it happened again! He is fab dh so sorry for moaning. Saved full on exchange of views!!

I never have dinner waiting for my husband so this doesn't arise, he's crap at time-keeping and I realised very early in my marriage that I would just have to let that go, and now just leave his meal out. We eat together on the weekends, and once I explained to him I thought it was important to sit down together, we do. But, then if I was quite late getting home from work, I wouldn't text him, we just seem to turn up when we turn up.

Are you both working full time?

If you are, then why is it you waiting for him to come home?