to think my friend was being very passive-aggressive

[CheeseChomper]

Don't know why i'm thinking of this now but has been bugging me... I obviously have too much time on my hands!

A friend of mine has a birthday that is 4 days after mine (at beginning of Dec), and we have always sent each other birthday cards. FWIW I always pride myself in sending friends cards and remembering birthdays, even if I don't always get one back. I received her lovely card a few days before my birthday and thanked her for it on my birthday. Then there was the heavy snow, and so I ended up posting her card a couple of days later than usual (was/am heavily preggers so wasn't very safe trotting up the road to buy and post card at the time). I text her happy birthday on her special day, and warned her that her card would be a bit late because I had posted late and because of Royal Mail having probs with the snow.

All seemed fine, but turns out she never received my card, as 3 weeks ago, she posted on my Facebook wall for all to see:

"Still no birthday card. Oh well, maybe I'll get it this time next year, haha. So how are you?"

I think I was pissed off because a.) I always remember her birthday and it made me look uncaring b.) She's had previous of doing this sort of thing before but in front of other people i.e. put me down but then say "i'm only joking, haha".

AIBU in thinking that this is a very passive-aggressive post? or am I over-thinking things? I'm not generally a sensitive soul but I was miffed because she had text me earlier that day and so could've said the same thing in the text if she really wanted to, and also she hardly ever fbs me any other time.

post back thatroyal mail are rubbish or something. it ws probbly a go at royal mail not you, unless she has previous "form" which rereading I see she has. Post something about royaal mail and forget about it. She is not worht worrying about if she is like tht. people who know her will know what she is like anyway.

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa Please add these in the appropriate places. keyboard gets stuck and sometimes I miss correcting them.

mutznuts - I have a cracking sense of humour (if I do say so myself! )

Unfortunately I know my friend and I strongly suspect this wasn't her way of joking or banter.

Aw, I think its fair enough to be a bit over sensitive/ over think things when pregnant. I definately dont have too much time on my hands - Im constantly up to my eyeballs but find I obsess over and take offence to the slightest thing when Im pregnant.

Its allowed

The very expresssion passive-aggressive makes me want to hit people.

I think it's best not to give these things too much thought. Maybe she was having a slight dig, perhaps not.

You were upset because she made a public comment on Facebook, but you've done the same by posting your query here. Hope she doesn't see it. That could make it worse.

Cheese. I bit a bit miffed too because it's in public. If it was a private e mail fine as yr both in on the joke but to do it on faceBook is a bit thoughtless IMO. She should have made a comment like "bloody royalmail" on her comment too. Then it would be fine.

She was just joking with you.