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to be really jealous of my friend

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gingernutlover · 31/01/2011 07:23

she has just booked a fortnights holiday in the sun for her and her dp while her parents come and look after her 5 year old.

I soooooooooooo miss holidays in the sun Sad I know I should be pleased for her and I am really but can't help feeling really grumpy about it too ...

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Peachy · 31/01/2011 08:41

Ginger the year before last was the only abd year we ever ahd, seriouly; last year we spent it on the beach

But there are other ways to maximise your chances- ehad to wales or Norfolk it will rian (I live in one of those before anyone yells LOL); head to the Isle of Wight your chances of sun spiral.

I presume you are anti camping then? £600 for 6 of us at a 'proper' holiday site in school hols this year including ferry.

Alternatively again, look at sites that can minimise the impact of the wether- I would suggest Sandy balls as an all weather option, but there must be mroe around (without recourse to the high prices of centre Parks or general sensory hell that is Butlins)

spongefingerssavedmylife · 31/01/2011 08:44

I'll probably get in trouble for this but could you not take your dc/s out of school for a week. I'm a teacher and I firmly believe that a week of hol won't hurt them (unless just pre GCSEs or something).

woollyideas · 31/01/2011 08:44

And gingernut... I sympathise with the caravan scenario. We went to Devon last year (me and DD) and it rained torrentially 3 days out of 6. We went home a day early after spending a storm-lashed night in the caravan which gave me the uncomfortable feeling of being in a boat on a rough sea. I lay there thinking a tree was going to fall on us any minute. Yikes!

spongefingerssavedmylife · 31/01/2011 08:45

Norfolk is one of the driest partss of the country

mutznutz · 31/01/2011 08:45

If you can't afford the school holidays, why not forgo a caravan holiday this year, and put the extra money you save towards a holiday in the sun next year?

Peachy · 31/01/2011 08:47

OOps sorry ginger- basing that on my one nightmare experince of admitteedly dry but awfully cold and windy week (and the basis of if you move North you get wetter)

squarehat · 31/01/2011 08:48

We have been in a caravan the last 2 years too, we went around Easter both times and managed to avoid rain :)

YANBU to be secretly jealous and post on here, bit of a different story if you shared your views with your friend. I'd probably be a bit Envy too if it was my friend. Although I couldn't go 2 weeks without DD, a long weekend would be lovely though. Still miss her lots but I'd manage Wink

Peachy · 31/01/2011 08:50

OOh now yes if you cast your net wider- half terms in May at a pembroke site have been beach hols for past two years

donkeyderby · 31/01/2011 08:57

Be naughty and take DC out of school and get a really cheap one week deal in the sun. Much cheaper than holidays here. I wouldn't want to be without my dc's for two weeks if they were that young

Nuttychic · 31/01/2011 08:57

YANBU everyone has a little of the green eyed monster every now and again or they would be saints! It is more about how it affects you. Sitting seething is not good at all but letting it be a kick up the bum to try and save and organise a little time away (even if its just a few days) would be positive. Maybe even ask her if it was fun, where she stayed, etc and start saving for a holiday in the summer. Look at her going first as a "feeler" for if the accomodation, etc was good.

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gingernutlover · 31/01/2011 09:07

I can't go away in term time - not because of dd but because of my job.

I'm sure we will manage a bit of time away at some point, although we have 2 family weddings which we have to go to this year during the summer holidays, so our choice of dates is very narrow.

As I said before, this really isn't about my friend, I realsie that now.

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CMOTdibbler · 31/01/2011 09:15

I'd like the grandparents to want to be with ds more - my parents aren't capable, but dhs feel that they have done the grandchild thing with their other 5 (aged 19-14), so don't offer for ds.

We are unreasonably excited that ds has a sleepover on Friday, so for the first time in 4 and a half years we will wake up together without him. In fact the first time we both get a lie in too.

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gingernutlover · 31/01/2011 09:33

I dont blame you CMOT - enjoy your layin Grin

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firstwetakemanhatten · 31/01/2011 09:42

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Bumperrlicious · 31/01/2011 09:49

It's perfectly normal to feel jealous. I'm desperate for a sunshine holiday with no children. Would I take one if I had the opportunity? Probably not. Doesn't mean I'm not envious of those doing so.

I hate these 'some people can't afford a weekend camping so be bloody grateful' type posts. God, if we took all the unreasonable and irrational thread away from mumsnet it'd be pretty bare. And this one isn't even unreasonable, it's perfectly natural to feel envious, and better to post it on here than show it to her friend.

Bumperrlicious · 31/01/2011 09:55

Firstwetake, I think goblinchild was implying that some marriage split up in the early stages of childhood because the parents didn't have to time or energy to devote to a marriage. Obviously that is a generalisation but I can see where she is coming from, dh and I have bee pushed to the brink with young children. A holiday would rejuvenate us all & get us back on track. I don't think she meant it to be offensive.

Gemsy83 · 31/01/2011 09:55

YABU- I would hate a fortnight away from the kids and really dont 'get' people who do this...

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BuzzLightBeer · 31/01/2011 10:27

Because any woman (and we do mean the woman here, not the man) who could possibly leave her child with other family members for 2 whole weeks to do something for herself is and unnatural creature whose possibly evil and/or irresponsible?

Do me a favour. He's being left with presumably very caring grandparents, what is wrong with that?

Mumcentreplus · 31/01/2011 10:41

Ha!.. I too would love a fortnight away sunning my buns matey!

my children stay with their GPs for a few weeks during the summer hols while i work...is that wrong too?..or is it only strange if I'm enjoying myself? Hmm

OP everyone feels Envy...I bet she probably Envy's your cellulite-free buttocks or something!! Grin

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gingernutlover · 31/01/2011 11:16

PMSL at the thought of me having cellulite free thighs!

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Mumcentreplus · 01/02/2011 20:33

I have cellulite free nostrils Grin

Fantoosh · 01/02/2011 20:41

Hell I'd love a holiday sans kiddy!

They are my world...my sun, my moon yadda yadda - but crikey they make a lot of noise and they never stop asking for stuff.

Two weeks off from that for the first time in nine years would be gold.

I would be jealous too. YANBU.

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