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the nurse called me Nanna!

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GlynistheMenace · 30/01/2011 20:06

had to take miniMenace to the 24/7 medical service today

we've had cause to visit quite a lot through various needs recently, including herself having blood tests.

She was little reluctant to have the nurse check her over today, so the nurse said to her

"maybe sit on Nanna's knee for it"

WTF

I'm 43 you know never thought I'd really be seen as an old gimmer

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gordyslovesheep · 30/01/2011 20:08

how odd - in my experiences nurses tend to establish relationships before treating a child as in 'and you are ...'

Jajas · 30/01/2011 20:09

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SherbetDibDab · 30/01/2011 20:09

Poor you. You can't possibly look old enough to be a Nanna.

Is your medical centre, by any chance, in the sort of area where it's unremarkable to be a grandmother at 25? There's one like that near us.

bb99 · 30/01/2011 20:10

Hope you corrected her and got an apology!

How rude!

belledechocchipcookie · 30/01/2011 20:10

I escorted a teenager to the operating theatre once and was asked if I wanted to kiss him goodbye I was the nurse!

FreudianSlippery · 30/01/2011 20:12

If it's any consolation, when I went to the dentist with my maternity exemption card, the receptionist asked me for my due date, despite the fact that my 6mo DD was in the buggy next to me!

usualsuspect · 30/01/2011 20:13

I was mistaken for my sisters mum once by a nurse..shes only 5 years younger than me

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GlynistheMenace · 30/01/2011 20:15

she wasn't a young nurse, she looked older than me (glynis now aware of being ageist herself)

and yes, maybe 25 yr old grandparents are perhaps not going to raise many an eyelid round here but still.......i could have been anyone! carer, SW, big sister

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GreenEyesandHam · 30/01/2011 20:56

Ohhhh nooooo!

Some absolute shithead tosspot once asked my 27 yr old brother if I was his mum- I was 35, and my brother doesn't even look that young.

Of course everyone else I told about it, went 'Whaaa?????? He thought YOU were HIS MOTHER???? WTF???' but now I've convinced myself that they were all being kind and I must in fact look at least 20 yrs older than I am.

Lancome has done very well out of me this past year

odisco · 30/01/2011 20:59

My mother complained this year that she is rather fed up of looking so young. She is often mistaken for my sister, and all the time for my dad's daughter.

I tore a strip off her for that one - I clearly got the wrong genes if I can look like the sister of a 60yr old (at 35)....

SwearyMary · 30/01/2011 21:01

I would have given the 'face' to her, silently told her to fuck off and then told her I was MiniMenaces mum!
Cheeky bitch.

nowwearefour · 30/01/2011 21:02

i was offered a seat at a v packed funeral and it was only a few moments later it was becaues they thoguht i was pregnant (i wasnt). made me even more

bubblewrapped · 30/01/2011 21:10

I was out with my husband when we bumped into someone he hadnt seen for a long time.. and who I had never met before..

They were also a friend of his ex wife, and said to her the next time they saw her "oh, we saw your ex out with your eldest daughter the other day"

I am only 7 years younger than her... and 8 yrs younger than my husband.. lol!!!

I think that was round about the time she decided she didnt like me any more...

justcarrots29 · 30/01/2011 21:14

Oh how awful!! I was at a kids party today and everyone asked what I was doing for my 30th birthday this year. I said I am not doing anything because I will be 29. Thanks.

It is only a year but everyone thinks I have hit 30 and then say 'Oh no you don't look 30 you seem very mature in your ways'. Gets worse.

toddlerama · 30/01/2011 21:15

Well there are grandmas who are 43, so it's not terribly unreasonable, but stupid to assume, yes.

I've been mistaken for my sisters mum (4 years younger), and am offered seats on the tube regularly (my youngest is 2). In fact, even when I'm out with both children I get asked when I'm due all the time. I'm so hardened to it I think I feel worse for the asker because they usually look like they want to squirm under the pavement when I explain that it's left-over....

theresapotatoundermysink · 30/01/2011 21:16

Don't take it to heart OP, she's probably just a div.

People sometimes mistake my father for my husband if I'm out with him and my DD. It's so wrong AND I'm in my 20s and he's in his 50s. AND we look quite alike. Some people.

PiccalilliShinpads · 30/01/2011 21:23

A similar thing happened to me last Friday. I was walking through town with my younger sister (28) when we bumped into an ex colleague of hers, a woman in her early 60's

The woman asked how old my sisters baby was now and my sister told her he was 8 - it had been some time since they had seen each other

The woman then commented on how surprised she had been when my sister had revealed that she was pregnant and I agreed that I had been surprised too as my sister was 28 weeks before she realised she was pregnant ......the woman then said 'awwww are you her mum?'

ummmmm I am only 38 FFS!!!!

It goes from the sumblime to the ridiculous though, having been asked for id in a supermarket to buy a bottle of vodka and being asked by a woman in the street who was handing out cervical cancer awareness fliers if I was old enough to be having smear tests - swings and roundabouts I suppose

onceamai · 30/01/2011 21:24

Again - don't take it to heart. She may have been finishing off a double shift and have her own family and worries to deal with. She may also just have dealt with another family where the child was being looked after by a "nanna". Don't dwell on it.

BreconBeBuggered · 30/01/2011 21:24

Some people just don't engage brain before they speak. I've had some assume DS1 is my DH (he's 16), and others that DS2 is my grandson. The nanna remark is the one that pierces your self-esteem, though, even when it's technically feasible.

southeastastra · 30/01/2011 21:26

i know someone who did a similar thing - try not to take it personally,my mate was very mortified

WanderingSheep · 30/01/2011 21:31

My sister used to get mistaken for my mum all the time! She's 9 and a half years older than me. When she was pg with my first nephew (who is now 12) I was 15 and she was nearly 25, we were in a shop and I was buying him a Peter Rabbit toy. The shop assistant said, "aww, are you excited to get a baby brother or sister?" to which I replied, "no, because it will be my niece or nephew!" I bet she wanted the ground to swallow her up.

poolet · 30/01/2011 21:32

It happened the other way round to me (I became a grandma at 43 btw) - an elderly man told my grandson to 'ask your mummy if you can have a sweet' Of course I was chuffed but it's a fact that most people a) aren't very observant and b) don't think before they speak.

So don't take it to heart.

borderslass · 30/01/2011 21:41

When DD2[15] was a toddler I had my niece[13] staying on holiday with me and we went for a day out DD2 had her face painted and woman doing it turned to niece and said does mummy want one as well, I put her straight and she explained she was a midwife and had delivered 12 year olds I was quite by it.

brightlightsandpromise · 30/01/2011 21:49

Happened to me too I took great delight in watching the nurse squirm when i said, errr no, im her mum - we laughed.

fifi25 · 30/01/2011 21:50

When i had by daughter my dad (who had me at 16) brung my other 2 daughters up and the nurse congratulated him, he was mortified.

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