dd smoking round her ds1

[ilovesprouts]

hi ,aibu? to tell my dd1 whos 18 not to smoke round my grandson ,he came over to day and his coat/clothes stunk of cig smoke !! she told me it none of my doing what she does ,but i worry for my grandsons health ,im always telling her not to smoke round him but she never listens to me her clothes stink of cigs too ,i bloody hate it

Your post doesn't make sense.

You're asking if you're being unreasonable too tell her...and then saying you're always telling her?

What do you want us to say? Everyone (including your daughter) knows not to smoke around babies. If she's still doing it, then I doubt anything you say is going to change that.

You are not being unreasonable, but it doesnt sound like she is going to take much notice. She sounds very irresponsible and selfish.

YANBU. As bubblewrapped says, it's selfish and irresponsible.

i just wish shed stop smoking round him she smoked wen she was pg to she had a big bump buy he was only 6lb 12 oz at birth

It's a shame, not to say depressinhg, when people do that. I spent several days in an ante-natal ward with a silly cow woman who, despite being repeatedly told that her smoking habits put her baby at huge risk of premature delivery, and despite being told not to leave the unit, kept nipping out for a fag. Baby delivered prematurely... Can't imagine she stopped afterwards either. I think YANBU to remind your daughter but, ultimately, she'll do her own thing whether you like it or not.

The bump means nothing in relation to the baby's weight by the way.

YANBU. She's risking lots of future health problems for him.

no of course you aren't being unreasonable trouble is at 18 she isn't going to listen to her Mum. Is there anyone else you could get to have a word with her? Or maybe direct her towards one of the parenting forums? There are often discussions on them and she might listen if more people are saying it.

hes had quite a lot of chest infections since last year she says she dont smoke round him but she does as he stinks like an ash tray yuk i dont smoke my self but ive caught her smoking upstairs/kitchen i tell her not to be she says mum it will be ok i will spray air freshner

She doesn't get it. Nothing you do or say will change it so yabu if you persist.

may as well save my breath then

Of course you are not being unreasonable, shes being extremely selfish. I cant understand why people do this - would it be that hard for her to pop outside for a cigarette?

There isn't much you can do except to refuse to let her smoke inside your own house. for you, I would be horrified if ds smoked, esp around my gc.