MIL says it is weird (secretly to DH)

[elseIlltellyourfather]

When we kiss goodbye or good night (or anytime) my DS 2.10 and I kiss on the lips. DH and PILs always turn their faces away and offer their cheeks (having asked for a kiss) and I can see it confuses him as he tries to kiss their lips! I am secretly quite pleased that he doesn't kiss them on lips anyway but that is by the by. I asked DH about it and he said MIL said it is weird and 'wrong' for children to kiss/be kissed on the lips (DH doesn't care one way or t'other). I though FFS. AIBU?

Thought not though

YANBU - We both kiss both ours on the lips (nearly 5 & 3).

they sound like insane nobbers

Actually my mum, my MIL and my FIL kiss them both on the lips as well. My dad doesn't.

Ah no I thinks it's really sweet- enjoy it, he'll only grow out of it :)

no yanbu if i ask ds for a kiss he puckers his lips why would i then give him my cheek, or turn his face away to kiss his cheek.

YANBU. Sounds like they have a few hang ups to me.

Not wierd at all. If he was a teenager it might be a little odd.

DS1 is 7 and still kisses me on the lips.

why on earth would she think it's weird?

MIL sounds weird.

YANBU

Bizarre! Why not kiss on the lips?

Weird thing is she is always slobbering over him, me and DH, which I find a bit weird and horrid (much as I love her), though relieved it isn't on my lips (arrggghh emoticon)

Not unreasonable. However, I've had to get ds to kiss on the cheek as he's 16, severely ASD and had started to 'go in for the kill' with kisses.

I'm not a real lip-kisser (except DH!) and don't really like it when children I am close to (family members' children) want to kiss on the lips because that is what they are used to. I also proffer a cheek But I can't understand why your PIL give a toss that you kiss your DS on the lips.

My DD is 2.6 and always insists on kissing on the lips, whether we like it or not! I have to admit that I did find it weird at first- I come from a background where we don't really do kissing and hugging much, so it felt very strange to kiss anyone other than my DH on the lips. But definitely nothing 'wrong' with it- they'll decide soon enough that it's embarrassing, so best to enjoy it while it lasts IMO!

Enjoy it, ignore mil, my 11yr old doesn't kiss me at all anymore and I miss it, I'm hoping that one day the kisses will start agin, in the mean time I will make do giving my 8yr lots of kisses on the lips.

I find it yukky..not weird..they're so perfect I don't want manky grown up lips on my children's mouths! Grownups get coldsores, sore throats..they eat crap and have stinky breath...my pefect 2 year old doesn't need it.

Not a PFB either...I have 2!

MIL's parents weren't terribly nice people so I expect it comes from her lack of experince of affection displays, but still. DH says he even remembers her saying it to him when she was picking him (DH) up from primary school and saw another mother/child do it!

Me and DH kiss our 8 yro DS and 4 yro DD on the lips. When my dad says goodbye to me he kisses me on the lips and I'm 28 lol

I didn't come from an awful background though...but I AM OCD....could MIL have cleanliness issues?

No, she doesn't. Def not

YANBU they are. Agree with Custardo and LOL!!

This has been done before on here though so they are not alone.

My 9 year old normally offers me the top of his head when I ask for a kiss!

DS2 and DD who are 4 and 2 still kiss on the lips, I think its sweet.

Both DDs (8 and 12) kiss DH, me and each other on the lips but nobody else. I never really thought anything of it.

i don['t anybody's being unreasonable. my parents are the same and there just never would be any lip-kissing, even with lo's. I wouldn't kiss my siblings' kids on the lips, even when they were little, but I definitely kissed my lo's on the lips when they were little. don't think lip-kissing is or isn't a problem - just people's preference. if you don't like it that I can see it would seem 'weird'