or is SIL?

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as a rule myself and DH dont talk about our finances with other family members.we just see it as our buisness.
anyway a few weeks ago we got our DD kitted out for her communion.SIL rang whilst we were shopping saying she was at our house.the shopping centre is only 10 mins from our home so we said why not pop up and we'll have lunch.
she didnt want to but asked how much we had spent on communion stuff and DH wouldnt tell her.she got really angry that he wouldnt and in a huff hung up.

we have since rang and texted but she never answers or replies.she is very about money and how broke she is etc.
she also got angry when DH wouldnt use our credit card to pay her car tax a few months ago because it was maxed.

She's acting like a child. Ignore her.

Tell her to get fucked

I'd go with ENorma's option mixed in with Tees, first tell her to get fucked, then ignore her.

no she dosent have any children so its not competitive parent syndrome lol.

shes very moody.can snap you in half with a look sometimes for no reason.

Another one for telling her to fuck right off!

BeerTricksPotter we loaned her money for a flat deposit about 6 years ago to help her get out of an abusive relationship.it was paid back and never been mentioned since.

btw she had money to tax her car but she didnt want to queue in the tax office.

None of her business.

Ignore.

no back story at all.we all got on great until now.no bust ups or anything.

we're in Ireland.she dosent have a credit card so she couldnt pay online so would have to go into the tax office.(takes about half an hour).

Another vote for the eff off reply. Strange lady your SIL.

SIL is clearly miffed about something and that something may not actually be anything to do with you per se.

I would send a her a message to say "sorry if something I said hacked you off, but we tend not to discuss our finances with any members of the family, including the price of purchases. It was not personal, however if you choose not to make contact for a while I accept your decision". And leave it at that.

Ignore her, dont' phone, text, email or any other contact. She'll contact you when she's ready to stop sulking.

A big F off from here too.
She sounds mad

No! Feeb1, why on earth should they begin a text with "sorry"? IME that is the last thing you want to do when dealing with somebody who has a big ol' sense of entitlement about YOUR business.