Constant texts asking if anything's happening.

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I've just gone overdue with DC2 and I am getting lots of repetitive texts asking if anything is happening yet.

DD1 was born a year and a half ago and one of my friends who had her DC1 with me has been texting me every other day for the last two weeks, even though her DC was 2 weeks late so she knows how it feels to be fed up and overdue. She wants me to text her when I go into labour which we laughed about and I told her I wouldn't be doing that as I'll have other things to think about. She's still texting me.

AIBU to just not reply or am I being ungrateful? I do intend to text everyone once baby arrives.

DH put a message on facebook stating "the next person to ask if we've had it yet will be taken out into the street and beaten to death"
Over the top, perhaps, but it did make everyone laugh and shut up til they got the message that Boy had been born at 9 days overdue.

YANBU. This really got to me to. I didn't need reminding that my son hadn't popped out yet...I bloody knew that by the whopping great bump stuck to me and my inability to get off the sofa by myself!! I'd ignore any texts relating to your up and coming birth....I did in the end. Didn't seem to upset anyone as far as I know. I think once the text that lets everyone know you've had your baby gets sent they forget you ignored them. In fact turn your phone off that'll get them thinking LOL.

You could always text back "I had a baby giraffe 5 hours ago, I'm just off down the pub for an hour before we set off on our around the world trip."

YANBU

YA so NBU

This is what to do: next time, just add a couple of weeks onto your due date and tell people that.

YANBU.

Do what I did. Text back and tell people you've had octuplets. They get the hint then.

YANBU.

Thankfully when I was 9 days overdue my Mum and DP's Mum were the only people who had our home phone number. Didn't stop my Mum calling at 10am Every Single Fucking Morning after I was 37 weeks to see if anything was happening.

Grrrrrr

I did find myself out for a walk Boxing Day (the day after my due date) and bumped into a friend. First thing he said... "Oh, haven't you had the baby yet?"

The fact I was still the size of a house, out with the then OH and babyless should have given him a clue.

YADNBU!

It drove me mad when I was pg with DC1. I'm currently 38+4 with DC2 and when anyone asked this time, I added 2wks onto my due date, but people forget, so I'm being harrassed again as they know it's coming up soon! It's especially annoying when it's coming from someone who has been in your situation.

One evil pleasure I got when I was asked, 'No baby yet?' by text, was waiting about 4hrs to text back, thus getting the texter all excited thinking things were happeneing, just to disappoint them when I would text back saying, 'Oh sorry for not texting back sooner, I left my phone on charge in the house.'

One of my friends put a message on facebook saying, 'Babies are born on their birthday, not their due date' which I thought was brilliant!

i had a one hour bath last night and got out to find 9 missed calls on my mobile and 4 on my house phone all from different people. I'm 5 days overdue.

i felt so awful for shouting at two of them.

but ffs, don't they think i'd have said if i'd had the baby???

The grandparents took it as a personal insult that i didn't have baby two weeks early! I could not sleep at night in the last month and would go for a nap between 8 and 10 then again between 2 and 4. Every day my mother would call in the morning and mil in via afternoon.

They stopped after i called them at 6am 3 mornings it a row to cheerfully tell them there was no movement!

Yes i was unreasonable but it felt good and they now don't mess with me!

Oh it might drive you mad but I'm sure people are only texting and asking because they are concerned.

I do know how annoying it can be though, cos I've had 5 kids and went over with of them.

Just use it as an opening to have a whinge about how shitty you're feeling cos you can't wait to give birth, I'm sure anyone who asks you if anything is happening yet would be happy enough to allow you a moan.

Direct them to haveyouhadthebabyyet.com they may get the hint then.

When someone said to me "haven't you had it yet?" - I was gigantic. I said "Oh, yes I have, this is a cushion". Bit mean but I felt soo much better.

I would just ignore the texts and wait a few days before telling them that you've had the baby.

Turn your phone off and just chill out. Then when it all starts don't worry about texting people just focus on what you need to do.

Tell them that you will let them know when you have the baby. And that for every text asking 'if you've had it yet' that you get between now and then you will wait an extra day before sending the announcement text

YA soooo NBU

I went two weeks over with DD and got so fed up with constant texts and calls! I know people were interested and it's nice, but when you can't have an afternoon nap because your phone is constantly going off it does get annoying.

I especially hated 'Have you not had that baby yet?' If I had the choice she'd have been born on time FFS!!!

Hang in there and congratulations

Only down side to not responding is that people will assume the lack of response means you have gone in to hospital to have it. Then they will text within 24 hours to check again assuming you will have given birth.

Lovely that people want to keep in touch and check you are okay. But if you really don't want people to keep asking tell them via a round robin text or email.

So so so annoying. YANBU. Delete all such texts immediately and definitely don't reply. I had to be induced after DS was 2 weeks late and those bloody texts were the bane of my life, well-meaning though they were. I also had my PIL turn up as a sort of Welcoming Committee before induction (they live in UK, we live in Dublin), having been expressly asked not to. Grrrrr! People mean well but don't stop to think about how you might feel. Have a nice relaxing day and good luck!

send a blanket text saying thanks so much for asking but we WILL let you know when its happened. Then turn off your phone. Unplug the landline also. You are under no obligation to be contactable 24/7. I always unplug ours when DS is napping and frequently forget to plug it back in for days! Good luck

YABU

I think it's nice that people care enough to ask. To be honest, talking to people when I went overdue with DS passed the time for me.

Thank goodness, DH thought I was being a bit unreasonable not to reply to the texts but from the majority of responses, I can see I'm not. I am very tempted to tell all of those who have been hassling me that I had the baby about 5 days after he arrives!! Someone asked me if I know what day the baby will be born, I must be psychic.

My lovely cousin is texting my sister daily instead of me so I won't harrass her when her baby is due in the summer.

So, have you had it yet?