to get frustrated at the general rudeness of people

[deburca]

Im sick to the back teeth of having to try and excuse myself to pass by people having conversations in the middle of a pathway, having rude customer service, sitting beside huge people on the bus so that I end up squashed against the window, holding the door open for someone who walzes by and doesn't say thankyou, need I go on ? - ma I add that all three of these things have happened to me today.

In the case of the huge lady on the bus she actually asked me to move over even more and I suggested she move seats as at present she was taking up her seat and a 1/3 of mine!

Feel a bit bad about it now but honestly Ive reached the end of my patience

deb

Oh - forgot - X Factor - the most-watched family viewing there is ......

I don't think it's the fact the woman on the bus was fat - I think it was the fact she had the cheek to expect the OP to move up. It's hardly the OP's fault if she's eaten too many pasties is it?

Norbert - could she have been rolling her eyes at the other waitress, or at someone at the till who had the job of totting up the bill?

I agree, I think often people are already in a bad mood and are almost looking for an excuse to belittle someone else or kick off, particularly on public transport and busy shops. You can almost feel some people bristling with attitude if you ask them to move their bag or whatever!

JamieLeeCurtis -everything about her expression, body language and the way she took the bill back suggested it was us that she was rolling her eyes at.

I imagine they get a lot of people who present the voucher after being presented with the printed out bill and had thought that's what we were doing.

I remember having a conversation with a (nice) waitress in Pizza Express when we went for DS's birthday. She said staff in some places get hacked off at everyone using these type of BOGOF vouchers but that she realised that it was basically keeping her in a job as it encouraged more people to eat out .

yy Powered by. I wonder if that's a product of
a) more stress OR
b) people feeling they are entitled to take out their feelings on others

I have thought about this quite a bit. I was brought up in the 70s and 80s to be (what my mum now thinks) excessively worried about what other people think, and their rights. I think the good thing is that I am very polite and thoughtful. Less good is that I am not naturally very assertive. Also, I, and my peers were maybe not brought up with our parents listening to how we feel about things.

Nowdays, maybe, you've got people who are used to having others listen to what they think and how they feel, but not being able to control their behaviour - thinking they can just express whatever it is they are feeling. In other words - pendulum has swung too far the other way.

Fair do's Norbert. Very rude, and unprofessional of her

Lol at 'shirt fuse' :o

Anyway. Yes I feel your pain! Some people just don't get manners!

At a kids party yesterday and was holding the very heavy door open for other parents - despite being the only mum with a runaway toddler I was struggling to keep hold of! Both of the host mum's SILs just breezed straight past. I must be invisible. FFS.

This bothers me too, well I should say it used too. I've had atough few months and am certain there have been times that I have been rude, not on purpose or even realised it at the time just so overwelmed with grief and not able to think clearly, that now I try and think as other inconsiderate people might just be having a tough time also.

YABU i abhor rudeness, and i think you were beyond rude when you clearly made the woman on the bus feel uncomfortable, excuse her for existing. YOU could have gotten off your arse and sat in the other seat that way the woman wouldn't had to feel embarrased about having to ask you to move and have you huffing and puffing for the rest of he journey. I am a little on the lardy side, but not that big but people think its ok to have a sly jape just because you are fat, i have even been called a fat slag by a random stranger . Im not even that fat - size 18.

But i am very sorry for your bad day and i agree with you on all the other stuff.

YANBU.

I find I am always surprised when I actually encounter people with manners, which is pretty sad.

sitting beside huge people on the bus so that I end up squashed against the window

Nasty.

Brightlights - well said.

But the OP didn't say anything to the woman on the bus - it was the woman who spoke to her!

YANBU about the rudeness but have made a twat of undermined yourself with the rude comment to fatty!

As a fatty I'd like to know where we should sit on the bus!?! I can put it out in the newsletter - next to this months cake recipe.

deburca

I agree with you.

I'm not exactly a thin person but I'd rather hang a cheek over the seat than rudely, imo, tell someone sitting next to me to move up!

Take your point - I will say that some skinnies tend to half sit on us fatties just to make a point though - as if we take up the space to piss them off not because that is the amount of space we need. Then they huff and puff at our fatness - needless animosity.

YANBU, people can be very self-absorbed & rude these days but there are nice, kind people too.

To the people who are saying the OP is out of order with the commetn to the lady on the bus, being on the larger side myself I would be utterly mortified of anyone said something like that to me, however, I would never have asked someone to move over as I am aware its going to be my arse thats the problem, and as for saying she should have moved HOW the other lady was squashing the OP against the window, how exactly was she supposed to move???

But she didn't say anything. She merely sat, seethed and thought it. Does this mean I am no longer allowed to inwardly laugh at orange people with streaky fake tan? Or people wearing harem pants?

I hold doors open for people, let people through first, am generally polite, helpful and nice :) I really DO try and to be helpful because it's a very easy thing to do and can make a diference

Very occasionally I am the pushy bitch in Sainsbury's who barges past people without apology though, it's always because i've had an exceptionally shit day/explosive argument with DP/terrible PND etc etc. Not an excuse I know, but hey, nobody's perfect.

I now limit time in public when PMTing

As for your comment about the huge lady on the bus

You smug judgemental wench. If that 'huge' person had been me I would have fucking SAT on you.

YANBU....today in town I must have been shoved/pushed/ by about 8 different little lads...all lads...about ten or so with parents nearby. They just squeezed past me or shoved....and old ladies who won't move and women stood in the middle of the path or in front of shop doorways CHATTING!

manicbmc

^ I suggested she move seats as at present she was taking up her seat and a 1/3 of mine!
^

The OP's comment that FAT people are RUDE for 'squishing her up against the window' was bad enough, but her comment?? Very rude.

Yes but that was in response to a rather rude request in the first place from the woman.