to think that this community would be different to others

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I left another online baby community because certain people couldnt handle my immense popularity and proceeded to stalk me and make me feel like shit.

AIBU to think that the authorities should step in and protect the members of their community?

Should I have grown a pair of balls and told em to feck off myself?

The only answer is for the most popular among us, those who truly move in a higher sphere to the rest of the hoi polloi, to be assigned a 24x7 team of crack security staff - armed to the teeth and told to use deadly force if necessary.

Or, yes, you could go down the balls route.

Or you could get over yourself and realise its not a popularity contest

It was like a contest to some people.. Only I didn't enter. Really not arsed. My Q really is that if the moderators see online bullying should they step in?

There are no moderators, only HQ.

We police ourselves and if anything is particularly vileand uncalled for then MNHQ can delete the post/ slap the posters wrists etc.

It works very well.

I actually sort of know what you mean here and I would be interested to know which community. To be fair though when something similar happened to me the mods were really nice and banned the person concerned, however the whole experience unsettled me and it put me off!

By the way I wasn't hugely popular, I had an air of mystique which intrigued some :o

It's difficult cause the person in question did it in a very snide way in that they never actually said things out right. IYKWIM.

How did they stalk you?

Any thread I contributed to they would appear and twist everything being said. Sounds rather pathetic written down! ha. Anyway it wasn't the kind of place you could have just said fuck off. In the end she twisted something and called me a bully. I was fuming because I hate bullying. So I just left. She wins.

If it wasn't outright bullying, and it was very underhanded and snide, then it might not have been obvious enough to anyone else to do anything about it.

It may also be (and apologies to you) that you were more sensitive to the situation, seeing that it affected you most, and saw things that may not have actually been there, because you were looking for them, iyswim.

However - you have taken one of the 3 options - left the community. You coudl have called this person on their behaviour and asked them to be more upfront about what they were saying, or you could have namechanged and carried on (assuming namechanging is an option).

Other people noticed. They sent me messages. I think I made the mistake of being to honest about some issues I had going on. She knew my achilles heel and went for it. Don't get me wrong I'm not that bothered but it is annoying because I miss some of the groups. Oh well.

Some posters can go too far and in some instances I thinksomone should step in

Did you not have a reporting system then? I'm guessing not. And no one else stood up and said anythign to stop her? what a shame.

We're self regulating.

Don't get how they stalked you.

was it a private or a public board?

Public board.