AIBU to think I'm not being too strict?

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I try to encourage healthy eating in my kids, I don't let them snack on crap all the time, I limit the amount of tv time they have (including ps3) time.

But we have just visited dh's grandparents and have had a bollocking from his gm for saying ds wasn't allowed a second pack of popcorn. They have already been given a cornetto, and now they are being given chocolates.

Forgive the language but I'm so f**ked off!

Sorry should read DC's not DVD - corrective text on iPhone.

YANBU.

It drives me mad when my nan thinks that the only possible food she can give DS is either chocolate or biscuits. It is the only thing she offers. She does ask me first as she knows how I feel and I also have pretty strict eating times else DS won't eat his tea but it never stops her trying to ask me if he can have chocolate an hour before his tea.

FWIW, DS does get these treats at home, but it is usually after tea, not all times of the day and every time we go to see my nan (which is very very often).

I also hate the "mummy says no" with a little look at me to make me look like the bad guy.

\sugar sandwiches and a small bowl of sugar to dip apple in?
Tell me Madamecastifiore; Do you have any teeth left?

My DSs would sit there and eat cornetto, popcorn and chocolate if we let them and what is more their grandparents would give them it. DS1 will literally gorge and can't stop.

We have to step in some times and say stop - so I think YANBU. I definitely dont think 2 bags of popcorn is a good thing.

My Grandmother was a FIERCE mother. Incredibly strict, once gave my Mother the belt for getting stuck on a fence (she had been told not to climb the fence, but got stuck on a post and was there for quite some time until a friend of her Dads walked by and lifted her down!)

A strict but loving Grandmother (would threaten us with the wooden spoon, but would also give us stalks of rhubarb from the garden and a cup of sugar to dip them in!)

And is now a complete walkover of a Great Grandmother.

The children could be drawing on her walls with permanent marker and she would say "Oh look how talented they are!"

She is 94 now and increasingly becoming frail and I am grateful for the years she has had with my children, and for that reason I put up with her spoiling them.

People used to eat sugar sandwiches and have apple and suagr in the past. In fact, most fruit was eaten with a liberal sugar spreading.

We, on teh other hand, will be spoiling grandchildren with haribo or blue juice.

Oh yes apple and sugar sandwices were common in my childhood.

Those were the days, rotten teeth and a bath once a week.

If your dcs only visit occasionally, I don't see a problem. I doubt if I would even register. Spoiling grandchildren is their entitlement.

It is possible to relax your rules in different situations and for children to understand the difference. It is not going to come crashing down.

Aww it's been lovely to read other peoples stories and it has made it easier I guess to see why they do what they do. And to be fair the dc's do have these treats at home (someone said this but I can't remember who - I'm sorry ) but not an hour before a meal.

I didn't used to be so uptight about it but I took dd and ds to the dentist a couple of years ago and they needed 5 fillings each! That's when I reeeeeeallllly clamped down on it. Dd is nearly 6 now and ds1 is 4.5. Ds2 is just 7m but I have to remind dh's gm that no he cannot eat werthers originals yet, and no he wouldn't like some crisps. She even tried talking me out of breastfeeding, because I couldn't tell her how much milk he was getting in ounces . Still bf'ing now and intend to for another year yet!

Thanks again for all your posts, they really have helped. I'm much calmer now :)

My grandad, my dd and I sat on a bench and looked out to sea. I asked if he would like an icecream and he said yes. He gave me some money and I got one for all three of us. DD was two (just) she really enjoyed it and he said he was so pleased to have bought her her first one and that she had enjoyed it. He and I were very close and on that day we knew he was out of remission for cancer. He died the next morning, unexpectedly, from a cerebral haemorrage. Thinking about that afternoon still brings tears to my eyes.

Be grateful your DC have great grandparents alive to enjoy and to enjoy them. It is likely to be a brief relationship so let it be a fun one.