To wonder if my idea of foreplay is too much?

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Test!

Swedish...not Swesh.

Doesn't seem like it's too much to ask, if you ask me! But, it hasn't been unheard of for me to "negotiate" with DP whilst we've been having our pre-foreplay smooching. "Hmm... well, what's in it for me?" He makes a whole range of promises that he then must fulfil!

If you aren't willing to lay the bricks, you aren't going to get the house!

...unless you pay someone else to do it I guess. Hmmm... [nervous]

I know Bertie! It's shit..it doesn't hurt EVERY time...but if he's in a hurry it does...I can hardly expect full on arresment EVERY time..or can I? This is what I'm not sure of!

babylann you get PRE foreplay???

Fullon CARESSMENT

Bertie I DO like sex but no when it hurts.

Yeeeah. The kissy bit where you've just snuggled into each other and it could go either way - you could have a little smooch and then carry on watching whatever's on TV, or one of you could poke a cheeky tongue in the others' mouth and it could go from there! And if the kissing starts to get carried away and he does his cheesy porno-ey "shall we take this upstairs?" or "shall I close the curtains?", then I swoop and that's when our negotiations take place.

"Hmm... why would we need to close the curtains? Oh, you want -that-? What's in it for me? ;)"

bom-chica-wa-wow

YES. Yes you can expect full on caressing all the time. You've already said if you're already in the mood and it's a quickie you don't need it, so it's not all the time anyway. But even if it was, that would be fine! If you were horny and he wasn't, you'd expect to have to get him hard first, surely? Just because it's physically possible for him to have sex with you when you're not ready for it doesn't mean that it's okay.

YABU to think it is too much as it sounds like far too little!

He is being lazy in bed. You need to always tell him when it hurts and that he must stop - if he wants to hurt his DW then he is truly mean and selfish. You are not being difficult, you are just female and the vast majority of us will not be regularly aroused by a quick press on the buttons.

Haahaa Babylann, so funny. I like my back caressed/worked if we are having a proper session. It doesn't even really turn me on, I just like it and don't get it any other time. I love having my hair played with too, it's not sexual but just feels nice, I have more chance of my kids doing this than dp.

YANBU it's abit boring to just go for the kill, we only ever seem to do it about 4am atm. If he is up for it, then he is up for it, seems a bit lazy to me.