To think that my GP taking a personal ohine call in the middle of a consultation is really not on?

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Have been suffering from PND and anxiety for some time now and have started having panic attacks this week too. I've known for weeks that I beeded to see my Dr but only just plucked up the courage to make an appointment for this afternoon.

He has been my GP for around 8 years or so, I find him easy to talk to, he is young (well, a few years older than me) and very laid back. His timekeeping is appalling though and all his patients automatically allow for a wait of at least 30mins after their appointment time before they are called. This is ofter due to him arriving at the surgery late in the mornings

Anyway, today he was running 1hr 20mins late so I was really quite on edge by the time I was called in to see him (not helped by having left my EBF baby at home with MIL and knew he was getting close to needing a feed). I found it really hard to start describing how I was feeling and his mobile kept ringing - I could see it was 121 calling with a message, He kept cancelling the call and we'd try and get back to what I was saying but each time it happened I was finding it more and more difficult to get back on track. It happened 3 or 4 times.

Then, just as I was telling him something extremely personal about what triggers my panic attacks his bloody mobile went again and he looked at it, said 'oh it's my daughter' then proceeded to answer it

Now, his daughter is about 16 and lives with her mother (they are separated, small village where everyone knows everyone that's hhow I know all this) and I could hear every word she was saying.

DD: Hi Dad, you're probably at work?

Dr: Hi, yes, it's ok

DD: Are we seeing you tonight?

Dr: yes, shall we have a meal? Do you want to go out or shall I cook?

Anyway this continued until they agreed to meet at a restaurant, she checked if ok with her mother etc, you get the picture.

Then he turned to me and expected me to pick up where I left off! I couldn't so kind of went through the motions until I started to feel I was holding him up and he couldn't get me out of there quick enough!

I'm really upset as I really had to build myself up to even go there today, let alone open up to him yet he didn't pay any attention to me and I've come out none the wiser.

AIBU?

Unless BFing is giving you panic attacks , he is talking complete sexist bollocks.

I'd write to head of practice and cc practice manager.

I had a dentist do this to me. Once.

Took a call from his fiancee and went on and on about his wedding plans.

It was a private surgery, too. I was paying him an arm and a leg.

So I got up and walked out then reported him in writing to the board.

Honestly, when I'm paying someone for a service I don't give a rat's arse about their non-emergency personal life.

Of course you probably should complain and the treatment you received was poor.

But if it is a small village where everyone knows everyone, I wouldn't bother. Just book in with someone else next time. There's nothing in it for you if you complain and you could end up alienating people whose help you might need in the future.

Tosh! I'm in a small village where everyone knows everyone else and would not hesitate to complain about this individual.

He needs to know it's unprofessional and he's not being paid to run his personal life during patient consultations.

He's not helpful, either. He didn't help her. He wasted her time and fobbed her off.

If he can't deal with hearing the truth of that then he's useless, anyhow.

And if it's a place like here, everyone knows that already, too.