to feel gutted?

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I have 2 lovely dc. Have felt broody since ds2 was born 2yrs ago. Dh only wanted the 2, but recently has said that we can have another. Due to ttc next month. Now hes saying hes changed his mind & doesnt want a 3rd dc. Apparently he didnt want to upset me. I feel this is worse than a straight no. I know I should be content with my lovely dc so Aibu to feel so gutted?

You are entitled to your feelings, so YANBU to feel 'gutted'.

I you are also NBU to be very angry with your husband for messing you about.

Of course YANBU.

I have 1 and 1 on the way. DH has said that is it, I have said that I don't want to think that I may never have anymore and would like to keep my options open a bit, I am still only in my 20's after all. He did mention (jokingly) about just going and getting the snip. I was not impressed and made it clear that it wasn't funny and I would never say never.

Your DH shouldn't have messed you around like that and you should have a clear talk with him about how it has made you feel. Could it just be a case of cold feet now you were due to start trying again?

you arent being unreasonable

but neither is he, he has half the say in if you should or shouldnt, at least he told you now and didnt slope off and get a snip behind your back so to speak

YANBU