birrthday rsvps - and the curious case of being ignored

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One mum, somone ive known for ages hasnt replied.
her son and my DD are at different schools now, but DD went to his party in nov.

Ive text her, but its rejected??? ive facebooked her wall AND send her a email on there. I can see shes been on since, but hasnt replied.

Firstly im confused as to why shes not replied.

Secondly im pissed off because if her son doesnt come i can invite somone else. Ive paid for 15 children and its a wasted space..

AIBU to be narked.

( because i am bloody narked)

Could you try an old fashioned phonecall, or a "just passing" knock on the door?

It's wrong of her not to reply, but if you've only 1 out of 15 who hasn't you've done well IME

I hate this! Its so rude and it doesn't take 2 seconds to say yes or no.

I would send another message saying you assume xxxx isn't coming and you are going to use the place for someone else if the mother doesn't reply by x date.

Excellent idea crapbag. I have given up expecting a response. Those who come come, those who don't miss out. THB though, DD only ever has a party in the park so no need to fork out for spaces.

Funny Im having exactly the same problem, I think personally its really rude not to reply. I like to be a bit organised and still have got ? by 5 childrens names cause their parents haven't confirmed yet!!! Grr!!!

i dont pass her door. and i sort of feel that a text, fb wall post and thena facebook email.... it would be a bit odd of me to then call her. the party is tomorrow.

Its too late to invite anyone else now. he was Dds best friend in nursery, and she thinks hes coming.

I keep trying to work out if ive done something ( impossible though, seeing as we havent seen/spoken to each other since nov time)

Its just annoying when you have paid for so many places and then its just money ( which is in short supply) wasted.

YANBU at all.

I too agree with what crapbag says (ie say that if you haven't had a reply by a certain date you'll assume the child's not coming).

Finally, don't ever invite that child again.

Ah, see it's too late to use the place for someone else. Bummer.

DD missed a friend's party over Christmas because the invitations were handed out at school and hers got mixed up with Christmas cards (I presume) and never came home.

The girl's mum didn't check to see why we hadn't RSVPed. I happened to see the girl's grandad who asked my DD1 hadn't been at the party.

Doesn't sound like that's what happened to the OP but I'll be checking more carefully when the invitations go out for our next party.

I always put "please reply by xx date" on invitations. It still doesn't make everyone reply by then, but most do. I chase the others up on that date and if I don't hear any different, I assume they aren't coming.

Obviously too late for you now (how annoying!) but something to bear in mind for the future.

I didnt send her an invite, i just facebooked her when i organised it. She replied to that message and im sure it was spoken about... then i send another facebook with all the deatils on 3 weeks ago. Then chased up last week. then chased up with a facebook wall post 4 days ago, then a facebook email yesterday.

i shall not invite him again.. and shall, if they dont turn up delete her off my facebook. cant be arsed with people being like that.

I had one school person who hadnt replied, but i just found out who they were and went and asked them directly.
Its a PITA.