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AIBU?

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to wake dh with a bucket of cold water?

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headfairy · 28/01/2011 07:51

Due to various calamities we are without childcare today. I've taken tons of leave to look after the dcs, so dh agreed to take today off to look after them (we only found out at 9pm last night that we'd have a problem today so to be a little bit fair to him, he only found out at 9.30pm that he needed to be off) When I spoke to dh he was at a work function. He said he'd be home by about 11.30pm.

Fast forward to 3am and dd woke up so I went to settle her. Dh still wasn't home so I called him and a very drunk dh said he was waiting for a cab and would be home soon.

He finally got home at 3.30am, steaming drunk (he threw up). Now part of me thinks tough, he needs to get up so I can go to work, but I really don't think someone as hung over as he is is safe looking after the dcs. He's got to drive ds to pre school later and I'm sure he'd still be over the limit.

So do I get the bucket of water out or resign myself to ringing work and taking another day off?

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prettymuchapixiegirl · 28/01/2011 07:53

I would take the day off yourself for safety reasons, but still wake him up with a bucket of water.....

CockularDepravity · 28/01/2011 07:55

He'll be over the limit for a number of hours if he came home at 3.30am after drinking enough to make himself puke. You or someone else (not him) will have to look after the kids today.

I suggest you give him a royal bollocking, though, because that isn't on. We all like a good old work-do piss up but he's ignoring (or getting drunk enough to forget) parental responsibilities.

sarahitaly · 28/01/2011 07:55

"resign myself to ringing work and taking another day off?"

That one, on the basis that even if he isn't over the limit he probably won't be in a fit state to drive your little one anywhere safely.

sorry love.

I'd still throw the bucket of water at him though.

Just for the sake of it.

herbietea · 28/01/2011 07:56

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slightlymad72 · 28/01/2011 07:57

I'd take the day off, just so you know that someone who is fit is looking after the dcs and is legal when driving them to pre school.
I would not be letting him sleep in, he decided to get drunk knowing that he was responsible for the kids, so give him the bucket of water and the LOOK, you know the one.

onmyfeet · 28/01/2011 07:59

Hard one. I'd say get him up without the cold water and see how he is after a shower and coffee.

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headfairy · 28/01/2011 08:00

yeah, I thought I might have to take the day off, but oh he's going to get an earful. To give him a teeny bit of credit he was half drunk when I called him at 9.30 to tell him about our childcare woes. But he could have stopped then, instead of drinking for another six hours.

Herbie, if the bed is soaked from the bucket waking method then he's going to have to change it before he gets back in isn't he

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woollyideas · 28/01/2011 08:01

Look after the children yourself - it's the safest thing to do in the circs.
Throw bucket of water.
Withhold marital favours for at least a month.
Glare at him when he apologises. Divorce him if he doesn't.

prettymuchapixiegirl · 28/01/2011 08:26

If he stays in bed this morning, make sure you do a nice spring clean of your bedroom, including hoovering for at least an hour, and lots of banging whilst you sort out cupboards and wardrobes

GastonTheLadybird · 28/01/2011 08:31

Jesus, he's only got a hangover, let him have the kids. DS could either have a treat day off preschool to be at home with Daddy or your DH takes him in a taxi.

Utterly ridiculous you both taking a day off.

ZacharyQuack · 28/01/2011 08:56

Wake him up and send him to work

DamselInDisguise · 28/01/2011 09:01

I'd take the day off, but I'd make it very clear that he will be looking after the kids. I'd send them in to jump on him in bed / pester him for stories and to play with them, while I relaxed. After all, you're only there to ensure that your son gets to and from preschool safely. Your husband can do the childcare.

No sympathy is given for hangovers in this house.

brightlightsandpromises · 28/01/2011 09:51

im with Zachary on that one, send the fucker to work, what a twunt

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headfairy · 28/01/2011 09:56

Haha! Well he's done the right thing and strapped on a pair. Being fabulous I made him a bacon sarnie before I left and left him with a big pot of black coffee and two berocca.

I've hidden the car keys so he'll have to walk ds to school. I don't think the dcs will have the most stimulating day of their lives, it'll probably involve lots of cbeebies but I'm sure they won't complain.

His punishment is to let me have two lie ins this weekend instead of the one

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zikes · 28/01/2011 09:58

Either wake him and send him to work, or you go to work & let your dd miss preschool for today (if it's too far to walk).

Either way he should be getting up and doing his bit.

FindingStuffToChuckOut · 28/01/2011 09:59

Looking after the kids for the day with a hangover is punishment enough - leave him to it!

Good work hiding the car keys & enjoy your double bubble lie in this weekend.

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