Background-
Dh and I have 3 children- all 5 or under so we rarely get any time alone together. I am back at work after mat leave in a couple of weeks and it was my birthday earlier this week.
Dh and I try to mark each others birthdays by going out for a nice meal. They have got less and less extravagent as you might expect as each year has gone on!
I had managed to sort childcare out for all dc to enable us to go out for lunch just the two of us.
Anyhow,the day before our oldest dd was not well so I said to dh that we wouldnt be able to go out for lunch. At this point I said, that maybe he should just go to work and save his last day of holiday to maybe allow us to reschedule (not much chance but you never know)
He said he might just do half a day.
I spent every day ferrying the kids about, getting them in and out of the car etc and with dh being at home, I was looking forward to not doing the schoolrun just for one day.
Dh didn't go to work but did make me a nice breakfast. Dm popped by with my card and took dc2 to preschool (v unusual)
Later, I took dc3 to nursery (trial before starting properly when I return to work)I spent the day with dc1,attending to her illnesses!
My lunch was 2 slices of toast. I did say to dh that I might go to the cinema - as it was I decided not to as I wanted to spend some time with dc1 as she was ill and I rarely get 1-1 time with her. Plus I didnt really want to spend the day on my own.
Dh spent the day defrosting the freezer and did collect dc2 from preschool. When he got back I asked him where dc3 was (had phoned him to remind him about car seats but didnt have phone with him) and he said nursery. When I asked why he said dc2 wanted to come home and he didnt fancy waiting around 20 mins for dc3 and would go back later (5 mins!) ( I had said a specific time we would collect her)
At this point,I was cross - I spend my days watching the clock, and waiting around to collect or drop off.
I got in the car and collected dc3.
We all had buffet tea together, dh warmed up a few bits.It was mainly for the kids benefit.
After tea,dh gave each dc a present to give to me and a card. (2 of these recycled from xmas- not bothered about that- I didnt want anything else)He also gave me a card from him and some flowers.
Kids went to bed, dh and I did not speak. I went to bed at 830 feeling sorry for myself.
I know once you have kids, their needs become more important and I am not cross that dc1 was ill; just that dh could have made more of an effort or just gone to work and it would have been a more normal day rather than what I now see as a wasted day.
I have name changed as was feeling abit exposed with normal name btw.