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to not want to get reinvolved with snobby friend?

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chattychattycitygirl · 25/01/2011 22:39

I've been a single parent for the last eight years and met my new partner 2 years ago. One of my 'friends' dropped me socially for all events that involved couples during the time I was single though she remained chatty face to face and invited me for coffee occasionally.

We bump into each other several times a week because our children are friends. I accepted my expulsion from her social circle and thought she was a fair weather friend.

Last week she was shocked to establish that my new partner owns a small chain of independent shops and isn't just a sales assistant in a shop. She has invited us to dinner with two other couples.

I don't feel like going as I have in the intervening years made other non-judgemental friends who have not cared about my marital, employment status and have been friendly to new partner and don't care about what he does for a living. Am I being overly sensitive, petty and unreasonable? Should I put those years behind us and go or make an excuse and decline?

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itsonlyblardy2011 · 26/01/2011 00:24

hi chattychatty

yanbu!

i would be really mean and actually avoid telling her outright you aren't going to arrange anything

lots of "yes, yes, we must organise something" and never do

but then i am a vindictive witch :)

monkeyflippers · 26/01/2011 16:41

Ooh don't go!

Bunbaker · 26/01/2011 16:48

She sounds awful. I have been married for nearly 30 years I have married friends, single friends and divorced friends. I make friends with people I like regardless of their marital status.

I wouldn't go. The other couples might be just as awful as her.

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