to want baby number 3

[happystressedmum]

I have two beautiful children ds who is 8 and dd who is 3. I am nearly 39 and would love another child but DH says no - that we have one of each and we both work hard (me part-time) and life is hectic as it is without a baby in the mix. Financially we can afford it, we have a lovely big 4 bed house with a second home in Spain and I think he is being unreasonable! I am concerned because at 39 (nearly) time is running out and it too us 2 years to conceive first time and one year the send time!

YANBU to want another one but neither is your DH. Three kids is hard work!

Yanbu but nor is your DH. (sorry)

To echo the above, YANBU but nor is your DH.

But thats the problem - I do understand from his perspective - he is a real hands on Dad and is fantastic but yes some of the work would be on him because I work in the City and he gets home before me so does the pick ups, organises dinner (I normally make and freeze stuff at weekends etc)takes DS to football, fencing, rugby etc etc. Thus we have hit an impasse but am concerned that IF he eventually agrees it may be too late! Incidentally he didnt really want baby no 2 but agreed as said I wanted another baby MORE than he did not want one. However he adores his DD!

yanbu but you really need to know it's the right thing to do for your whole family if you're going to do it. dh was very against having more after ds2 and really wanted the snip - i wouldn't let him cause i had niggling doubts (didn't tell him!), felt like i got over it and accepted us as a family of 4 then got pregnant again! we have been through an emotional rollercoaster and baby hasn't even arrived yet. i am 1 of 3 kids so i know exactly what i'm getting myself into but dh has found it very difficult to deal with.

YANBU to want another child but you would be unreasonable to push your DH into having another child if he's decided he doesn't want a larger family, particularly as you've already emotionally blackmailed him on this issue once by the sounds of it.

It sounds like you have a lovely family why not try working on accepting what you have rather than worrying about what you don't.

I meant to say HE said I wanted a baby more than he did not want another one.

Thanks for your comments/posts

Hope all goes well with baby number 3 naturalbaby and thanks.