Newbie Here, Hi
as the title suggests I am having trouble with the in laws, not just the MIL.
The problems have been happening for the past 12 years when, the eldest child was born. They first started with he takes after his father, uncle, aunt, great cousin herbert, as far as the MIL was concerned I was purely an incubator. I never received any help or support from any of the inlaws and as my H worked away from home I was all alone with childcare etc. 2nd child arrives and the exact same thing but now I'm more bogeyed. I plodded along thinking thats the way it is etc etc. MIL when she did see her grandkids, would ignore the way I fed, disciplined etc and do her own thing, leaving me to deal with the fall out.
she now has another grandchild, who she lavishes care and attention on, careing for her at the drop of a hat and my children are now completly ignored, she never visits them, they haven't stayed at hers for 18 months now, (not that is bothers me too much as I had to pay her by doing jobs) the times we do visit she never says anything nice to them, criticises their hairstyles, the way they play, if they try to tell her something she tells them to go elsewhere.
it is not just her that is causing problems, both my SILs are also ignoring their nephews, one sil had special calenders printed, every member of the family has their birthdays printed except for my family, the other SIL, never speaks to or acknowledges my kids.
If this was aimed at my OH and myself then we could deal with it by ignoring them but as it involves my kids I can't. My OH suggestion is to just to ignore it but I can't, I believe he should be talking to his mother about this, but he refuses as he has tried before and she has just ignored him, but its getting worse and is now affecting our marriage.
any advice would be appreciated.
thanks