To want people to stop asking me how old I am?

[Annpan88]

Hiya! well...I'm 23 years old and 34 weeks pregnant, and I look, if I'm lucky, 18. I started a new job just before I found out I was pregnant and everyone kept asking me (open mouthed I might add) how old I am. Like thats particularly helpful. Then I say 23 and they say "oh thats alright then". What would they of said if i did say 18? something massively unhelpful and upsetting I'm betting. My age is not their business and you can be as good a mother at 18 as you can at 35 in many cases. Has anyone else had this problem?

Thanks :)

Q: "so how old are you?"
A: 104. (dead pan face)

yes I have, I was nearly 20 when pregnant with my son and the filthy looks I got lol I did look about in their defence 12 lmao and I'm only 5ft 1 so being short arse doesn't help. Even one of the midwifes on the ward asked how old I was when I had my son

Had my daughter at 24 and had the same problem again.

Lol FSTCO - 104 is good as is 14 or 'why, how old are you?'

My god, how rude. I live in a small village myself, and I'm eighteen years old, 11 weeks pregnant. I've had nothing but hugs, congratulations, excitement, general positiveness and support from everyone who knows/has found out.

I'm so sorry to hear that you are getting people saying that. Many people in my family have had children young (between the ages of 18 and 25 I'd say) and they have been wonderful mothers. The same goes for the mothers I've met who had their children in their twenties, thirties, fourties, etc.

Congratulations on the pregnancy, you'll get to see your little one soon!

Answer: 'Old enough to be offended at your question'. Watch them squirm and apologise then.

Will be remembering that one earwicga!

I got asked how many wives DH had when I was having DD. Other women (and nurses) on the ward couldn't belive that he hadn't divorced me because I was 37 and having my first.
OP. tell them to fuck off.

I was 16 when i was pg with ds1 17 when i had him.
If anyone asked i said i was 14 -just to watch their face drop.[bwink]

yeah just say you are 13 and you cant wait until the baby has been born so you can find out which of rugby team is the father.

i always get asked how old i am, when i say they see happier. im 25

I worked with kids when I was PG with DD at 21, one of them thought I was 15!!

On the plus side, everyone will go on about how you are coping so WELL when you cope like every other normal parent does.

I was in a shop buying milk when pregnant and asked what age I was. Woman was shocked when I said 37. She thought I was 17. I was not offended. Totally overjoyed. I was also given a half fair on the bus. I read somewhere that pregnancy hormones plump out the wrinkles?
On the plus side when you are all older and with DG's people will think you are the parent. My DM has on more than one occassion been mistaken for my DD's mum. She is in her late 50's

I got asked that once and just laughed and said 'too old to be asked that question'.

I would answer honestly and ask it right back.

And if you are feeling pissed off, look slightly shocked at the answer, say 'oh!' and then smile a teeny bit fakely.

I would just say "why do you ask?" (don't tell them your age first) and then see how they explain it.

I also would answer honestly and ask them how old they are in the same sentence.

Whne I was in labour with dd2 the midwife asked how old I was as she thought my notes were wrong. She thought I looked 16 but I was infact 26 and my notes were correct. Dh didn't look much older than 15 which didn't help, he's a few months older than me.

Lol, I'm 23 and 19 weeks with my second. Lived in London when I was pg with DD and no one barred an eyelid. We are now in a lovely little Derbyshire town and the looks and comments I get!

The wedding ring doesn't seem to get a notice at all, just the youth!

Tell them your 16!

And it's your second child.

batted an eyelid. Sorry - on phone on bus!

And no, YANBU.