to have told ex husband he is a cock.

[redderthanred]

Its DD's birthday today, he had her this weekend just gone.

bring her back and she goes straight into her bag to show me her cards ( she loves them, god knows why, but she just likes getting cards)

She couldnt find them. he told me he didnt let her bring them back as he wanted to keep them for when shes older.

FGS.

Its her birthday today, all her cards at his, including those from his side of the family are at his. Shes not even going to see him, let alone go to his for the next month.
Its not even like hes going to sit looking at them as hes gone away now for the next month.

What a cock and how horribly mean.
AIBU to tell him so and want to stab him in the eye with a hot poker??

DD was a bit upset this morning as one of them apparently had a badge ( shes 5) and she wanted to wear it today,

Yeah a bit of a cock indeed!

Does he think for any reason that you'd keep them and wouldn't give them back to him?

No he's being a cock you could have just given them back to him

i said to him that they arent his to keep. they are HERS. not his and that he should really post them to her and ill happily give them back to him after if thats what he wants.

Typically he didnt listen/care.

Fucking makes me angry.
What is going through his head? he gives them to her, and then takes them off her on the same day?

Bless, the poor wee thing.

Can you get to a shop and get the BIGGEST HUGEST card with a MASSIVE badge and buy her it. Take a photo and send to your wanker of an ex, with the message, "Don't bother to send the cards, Daddy. Mummy bought me a better one".

(just joking about the text, but maybe the badge?)

Yep, he is but at least she got a card. My ex lives 5 miles away - neither of my 2 daughters got a Christmas card and DD2 didn't get a birthday card this month either, all because earlier last month I'd told the ex what a prick he is to my DDs over another issue. :(

Could you tell his side of the family that your daughter doesn't have any of their cards? And that she was upset about it. Might stop it happening ever again.

Could it be an issue with birthday money in the cards?

Anyway, if I send a five year old child a card, I send the card to the child, not to "Daddy's memory box", so his family might not appreciate the behaviour.

Cant really bother his family about it. His dad died just before xmas and im sure they have other things to deal with other than pettyness such as this.

I expect they would be upset about it though.

It just makes no sense to me at all.

There was, as far as i know, no money in the cards, and if there was, he wouldnt pass it to her anyway.

I know its more grown up to let it go, and ive said my bit and wont mention it agian, but if fucking makes my blood boil. It really does.

Would you like to pm me your address, and I will send her a birthday card, redderthanred? Dh can get one when he goes out to the shops for me tonight (I'm ill and can't get out).

Or if you don't want to give a total stranger your address (understandably) could you ask some of your friends to send her an extra card each, so that she has a pile of them to enjoy.

This seems so mean and petty of him, and my heart goes out to your dd. Plus, as others have said, they aren't his cards, they are hers!

No advice but if I were in your shoes I'd want to disembowel him with a blunt and rusty spoon.

YADNBU!

aw - thats lovely. Thank you.

She just loves getting cards. she takes them down, reads them, puts them up.. and repeat.. then of course anyone that comes round gets shown them all and told who they are from.
Then she makes up stories about the pictures and reads them to the dog.

You should have seen the fun she had with the christmas cards... really, who needs playmobile when you can have a load of cards.

I just feel really sad for her, becuase i know she would love to have all her cards up, spread all over the house, from her daddy and her nana, and her auntie and instead they are in a cupboard at his, and its her birthday today.

I'm sad for the little poppet.

He is a cock.