To wonder if there is something my dad isnt telling me?

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Awake thanks to insomnia but mainly due to thinking about this.

My father is deaf, but that in itself has never been a problem, but recently he had another health issue that could have potentially been very serious. He had some treatment that has meant that he is ok for the moment but it could become an issue again at any time. I cant say more incase there are family on here and they could recognise us. It isnt a life threatening problem, but one that would affect a deaf man in a far more significant way than a hearing person.

He is a kind and loving man who has never had any problem showing his emotions, although he has had a tendency to bury his head in the sand regarding himself and his health issues.

But recently, he has been overly demonstrative. Telling me, my children and my sibling far more often how much he cares for us, hugging us more often, etc. From the odd comment my mother has made, I think he is doing it to her too. I know that it could easily be put down to him being thankful that his treatment worked but I know him very well, I am much closer to him than anyone else apart from my mum, and this just isnt him. The him that would be grateful the treatment worked would roll his eyes and make a silly comment about him being a scaredy cat and that would be that. This feels different.

I just have a feeling, a hunch, a sense that something is different. I know that if there is something, he hasnt told my mum as she cant hide a thing. She wouldnt spot it, she worries terribly about things but isnt very intuitive at all. She always says that she is a man in that respect, if someone says they are fine she believes them even if they have a gunshot wound to the head lol!

AIBU to wonder, or should I just accept him as he is being? Should I ask or stay out of it? I can ask him without him being upset, and I would know if he was lying, so should I?

Yes, if this was my dad, I would ask him.

I hope it's not what you are fearing :(

So sorry you are up worryign about this!

Yanbu to wonder if something is up but maybe he's just feeling his age and wants to show you all how much he loves you! probably no reason to be worried at all. Bring it up if you must to stop your stressign though.

I'd be thinking the same as you obviously are and would tackle him about it, with a proviso that you won't tell anyone else if he doesn't want you to (although you'd have to be prepared to stick to that). :( for you and hope that it isn't the case.

I am sorry, and I think I would ask him if I were you.

I'm sorry too - he may just be thankful for you all having had a scare that he's not talking about, esp. if your mum is a bit insensitive. There may be something wrong but perhaps he needs to deal with it in his own way first. I think I'd give it a month or two but maybe give him a big hug back and say "if there's anything you need to tell me I'm always here and love you very much".

It may only be that his ilness has made him aware of what matters....not that he's dying...illness can wake you up.

Wimple could well be right, I hope so. But onceamai's advice is very sound, let him know you are there for him to speak to should he ever need to. You will have done what you can without pushing him too hard.

I hope you are worrying unnecessarily.

thanks all.

I will take the advice and let him know that I am concerned about him and am there for him if he wants to talk. We will see what happens, if anything.

I appreciate the replies, thank you :)

I would ask, but not push it if he doesnt want to talk about it.