to ask that he shuts the bloody en suite door

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when he goes for nocturnal wees? It's completely tiled and the sound of his echoey pissing wakes me up, generally about 15 minutes after I have managed to fall asleep. If he would just shut the bathroom door it wouldn't be a problem.

I have asked him and asked him to close the door but he just won't.

Ended up with a blazing row last night and he stomped off to sleep in the spare room, yelling at me on the way for "nagging", and me lying awake until after 2am feeling upset and angry.

I hate the bloody en suite! We only have it because the house came with it. I'd love to do away with it.

My ensuite is MINE. No one else is may use it ever. Very rare exceptions are made for female guests. Dh uses the 'boys' bathroom. Incidentally I do not clean their bathroom either . And of course I never make smells, my poo is lavender scented. Ok last sentence is not true as I have IBS .

My bathroom my make up my space. Sorted.

Ps the study is mine too. Only way to cope in house of boys IMO.

carrots Mine started to do this recently,set alarm foe 6 to get to work for 8 but just go back to sleep while i led awake and uncomfortable (due to pg)
I told him if he carried on doing it i would be puttin lights and tv on during the night when i couldnt sleep,he has stopped.
My en suite is tiny and i tend to go in put the toothpaste on my brush then come out and get the quilt back or put clothes away while brushing,dh slips in quick and starts his teeth/piddle,really ps me off cos i havent finished.

I don't know what the answer is but my OH never shuts the bathroom door and it's not an en suite so the smells pervade everywhere! I've tried to ask him to shut it but he 'forgets' I close it quite forcefully as I walk past.

Oh, and why do men ALWAYS need a poo when you've just cleaned the loo??????

Of course, the snooze button as well. So as well as waking me up two or three times in the night, he also sets his alarm for 5am, then presses snooze so it goes off every ten minutes until 5.30. Again, if I dare to complain I'm "nagging"

He apologised last night for shouting at me and then said "you need to stop nagging me" to which I replied "you need to stop waking me up".

And why do men pooh in the downstairs loo?It really annoys me then if you need a quick wee you either have to go upstairs or don a bloody gas mask.

tallwivglasses, I agree with your , I would have killed for an ensuite toilet when I was pregnant and up 4 times a night for a pee.

I would have killed for an en suite when I was pregnant too.

I always wanted one and it just happened that our new house (moved in in November) has one. Now I have a hatred of it.

"The en suite killed my relationship."

Do you get up in the night for a wee?
If you do, then EVERY time you get up turn the main bedroom light on all the time while you are in the en suite.
If he complains say 'you need to stop nagging me' and then offer a deal where you will stop doing that if he starts closing the bathroom door

When we moved into our house, I banned anyone doing a number two in our en-suite. I do not want to be woken up by wafting pooh smells and farts from DH in the morning.

I do like having a bathroom to ourselves that isn't clogged up with the detritus of kids' bathtime: toys; baby bath; potty; sticky letters; etc.

Am wondering if ensuites are really badly designed as regards adequate ventilation, or many on here seem to have husbands with bowel problems?

before you go to bed, bung a few sheets of loo roll down loo and dont flush, when dh pees it should be quieter

They ARE badly designed in that toilets should NOT be near sleeping or eating places!

Get one of those auto door closer thingies. Absolute piece of piss cake to fit, so you can do it when he isnt there, and they are birlliant!

We got one because our bathroom door swings open of its own accord, which I hate for no other reason than I dont like seeing the bog when I walk up the stairs!

The door shuts without effort, you dont get woken up and everyones happy.

BTW, he is a lazy selfish git and normally I dont do "work-arounds" for that but sleep is more important than principles!

You mentioned a spare room? Make it the master bedroom.