to dislike being greeted as 'lady'?

[TheMonster]

There is a lovely candle shop in town near me, and I went in there today, only to find it had been taken over.
The new owner was standing at the door, and as I walked in, he greeted me with 'hello lady'. I was quite shocked as it sounded awful, and he did the same to another lady as she entered too.

How odd. I think the candle shop is a cover for something illegal out the back hence his lack of knowledge about 'ladies' and 'manufacturers'. Normally I find 'hello lady' is accompanied by leering looks, salivating and palms rubbing thighs of trousers rapidly. My advise is buy your candles elsewhere.

i have never heard anyone address someone like this. i would have found it odd.

'hello' on it's own would have been perfect.

Rainbow is lovely! I wouldn't have minded that at all!

It was the only shop nearby that sold a particular brand of insense that I like, but they had none there today anyway and I think I shall buy it online from now on.

FranSan, that's what it felt like! I love the description!

Boo, exactly.

Did he look like Benny Hill? I am imagining the music now with you and the other lady running around the shop and him chasing you . The music is going to be in my head all night now, [groan].

actually thinking about it now, hello would have been odd where i am from. you either get,
"how's it going?" or "whatabout ye?"

Was it "Heellooooo Lady" - bit like Lesley Phillips?

Yuck!

Hmm, this might be a cultural thing, but I grew up in the US, and there, I think, 'lady' is def rude.

To my ear, it has the familiarity of 'love' without the friendliness. I agree with Bathsheba: 'lady' is only used in phrases like 'Thanks a lot, lady!' (sarcastic) or 'Hey lady, [insert expletive of choice].'

You know what? Don't go back. He sounds weird anyhow.

The more I think about it, the more I don't want to be in the shop ever again in case he locks me in.

It's definitely used in a sort of scolding way up here in Scotland unless it's an actual title or just as a noun.

E.g. - "Less of the cheek Lady" would have been something my parents would have said to me.

This is an odd one. You see, we wouldn't mind if we all went in there and he said "hello ladies", now would we?

You could always say 'Hello, Manshape'

Good point, longgrass.

Still, stuff like this isn't logical... A lot of older people (IMO) find referring to a female as 'a woman' to be rude. My sister got told off for this once! As in, 'that woman just said blah blah...'.

I just cannot separate 'lady' from 'hey' in a rough Bronx accent

I was just about to post YANBU

But that's because I read the title as to dislike being greeted as 'Lardy'

mutznutz

Mutznutz, maybe he meant that and I misheard

suddenly the term 'lady' doesn't sound so bad does it?

So if you had been with a friend and he'd said 'hello ladies' would that have been rude, impolite and bad customer service?

I like 'Rainbow' - unless he is looking for a pot of gold...

No, that's a good point, gwendoline. I'm still not convinced that I am being unreasonable though!

I think it's odd I've never heard that here, sounds like he was thinking of 'hello ladies' (creepy but does get used) and went for the singular?

like rainbow :)

Odd isn't it? :)