ti think it's a bit much....

[flibberdyjibbert]

...to be expected to find someone to babysit both DDs (DD1 2yrs, DD2 will be 7 months & BF) so that we can attend a close friends wedding? When the bride-to-be came round to meet DD2 for the first time she had said that they weren't going to have children at the wedding (fair enough, we'd planned to pack DD1 off to granny's for the night), but that it would be fine to have little ones there. I'd therefore assumed that we could bring DD2. However when the invite arrived it was just addressed to me & DH, & in the blurb it stated that they were limited on the number of children they could invite, they hoped we'd understand, & that we'd find a babysitter in order to share in their special day.

Have since asked if it might be at all possible to bring DD2 (as she'll only be 7 months & BF) & told not really, as the insurance at the reception venue won't cover children who are walking/crawling. And now I feel like IABU for asking.

And I still think it's a bit much to be expected to leave both DDs with Granny (as I struggle to cope with them both ) so that we can be there.

So do I risk looking like I'm pleading a special case & say that we can't reasonably ask someone to babysit both of them, I'd still be BF & DD2 isn't that likely to be crawling by 7 months, & even if she was, we're not exactly going to let her roam over the reception venue floor, or do we just say that we can't make it & risk upsetting friends?

Grr.....

Sorry, rant over

I'm afriad since you've asked and been told no, you just need to send your regrets. As you say it seems a shame.

Yes, you don't go!

If they are sensible people they will know that 'no children' means that some people won't be able to come.

If it's a local wedding, consider asking granny to babysit for the ceremony and decline to go to the rest of it. It's her choice who to invite, and your choice whether to accept.

I think pleading a special case is unreasonable. You asked, she said no. Don't go through that again.

It is your choice to BF,as it was mine.You can't expect anyone to make a special allowance for it.

Maybe between now and then try to get your DD to take some EBM.
Could one relative take DD1 and another take DD2?

you have to decline explaining you cannot leave your EBF baby with anyone else for the day.. or you could just go for the ceremony or part of the reception if it's close enough, for a couple of hours?

never heard of insurance being a reason to not have small children at a do though

If they allow your child, they'll risk upsetting other friends and family members who have had to make babysitting arrangements.

bollocks about the insurance.

Depending on location etc, I'd say try and go to just the wedding, or maybe just the evening do if that would be easier for granny (as dd1 might be asleep?)
Or is there somewhere close like a softplay hell, that you could arrange to meet whoever has your children, so you could feed dd2 then go back to the wedding?!

It's not necessarily bollocks about the insurance. Public liability insurance involves risk asessments and for it to cover mobile children, may have meant the venue making changes to the building that they can't afford.

How old is "granny"?

If she babysits at your house where everything is to hand, I am sure she would be more than capable of looking after both children.