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AIBU?

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To put DS back into nappies for 2 weeks?

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TallulahDoesTheHula · 21/01/2011 10:09

DS is 5.5yo, he's only been out of night time nappies since just before xmas (came out of day nappies at 3).
I think he is reasonable 'night trained' in that he wets the bed about once a week but is dry most nights now.
The problem is that when he does wet the bed, he goes mental about it. He has Aspergers, so I think its an ASD thing. He basically wakes up wet in the middle of the night and goes mad, screaming and shouting 'I'm wet! I'm cold!' and refusing to co-operate with getting changed/using the toilet etc. It usually takes between 20 mins and an hour to sort him out, change the bed and get him calme down and back in bed.
At the moment DH is dealing with it as I am pregnant and suffering from bad morning sickness. Getting up in the night makes me really sick at the moment.

DS has wet the bed the last 2 nights in a row and DH is going away tomorrow for 2 weeks for work.

AIBU to put DS back into pull ups at night for 2 weeks as I just cant cope with hour long tantrums on top of hideous sickness on my own??

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bumpybecky · 21/01/2011 10:14

is he willing to wear the nappies? or will it cause more issues?

if he's OK with it, I'd put him back into nappies :)

bubblewrapped · 21/01/2011 10:17

Have you asked your son if that is what he would like? Is he able to talk about it in the daytime when he is awake properly and not in a temper.

I dont know if regressing back to the night nappies would be a good thing really, if he is dry most nights. Perhaps let him sleep on top of a thick fluffy towel, as a sort of reassurance that if he has an accident there is something under him to soak it up easier, and it could take his worry away about having an accident.

walesblackbird · 21/01/2011 10:19

Would the pyjama pants be better? Perhaps a better way of him saving face.

I have a 6 year old who's a fairly regular bedwetter but I know that there is no way he would go back into nappies or pullups. He's too proud for that.

Is he stressed about your husband going away? Generally my son wets the bed when he is anxious about something.

BuntyPenfold · 21/01/2011 10:20

Oh, I'd put him in pull-ups.

You don't need the aggro, and it won't delay his getting dry at night, as he isn't really dry anyway.

I had awful sickness so I sympathise.

roomonthebroom · 21/01/2011 10:23

I don't think YABU under the circumstances. You need to sleep. What happens if he wets the night time pants? Is his reaction different? If so, I'd do it.

FWIW my NT 5.5 yr old has only just stopped wetting during the night, save a few accidents. At first she wasn't in pull ups but she screamed at being wet too and would sit at the bottom of the bed refusing to go to the loo and shouting about how cold she was. It was SO stressful for us all and it took her ages to get back to sleep.

The pull ups are mostly dry, but if there is a wet one so what? I don't make a big issue of it and I'm sure she'll get rid of them soon, but in the meantime it means we all get enough sleep. I'm sure I'll be judged by some as lazy (as one RL friend has done), but judge away, it works for our family.

RealityIsKnockedUp · 21/01/2011 10:25

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TallulahDoesTheHula · 21/01/2011 10:32

He wont mind going back into nappies at all tbh. A nice thing about his Aspergers is that he doesnt get all the 'I'm too big for that/boys dont like pink' stuff
He wears a pull up when we visit family and friends as he understands that we cant be up making a fuss in the night at other peoples houses. I'm sure he'll accept fine that Daddy being away means wearing a pull up at home too.

He's not worried about anything, DH goes away often and DS isnt fussed at all about it. He just sleeps VERY heavily and then hates the feel of waking up suddenly and having wet pyjamas I think.

It will def regress him a bit as he'll become used to wearing the pull up again and relax and just wet it (if he ever wears a pull up its always soaked in the morning), so will have to go through lots of wet beds again when DH gets back, but DH is ok with it and I think it might be worth it to get through the next 2 weeks!

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finallyfree · 22/01/2011 20:03

YANBU my DS (14) has aspergers and although he was dry by aged 2 during the day night times took a little longer. I used pull ups at night on him until he was 6 and if he had a dickie tummy i put him in pull ups the last time was when he was 8. As an aspie child your ds needs routine and being woken up (cold and wet) will not help him. Go for the pull ups it wont hurt.

justcarrots29 · 22/01/2011 20:07

Yes get some pyjama pants or some of those bed mats for accidents. It might make him wake still but atleast you wont have to change the bed aswell and maybe settle him quicker. Goodluck

Blatherskite · 22/01/2011 20:12

From your last post, I'd say go for it. He won't mind, your DH doesn't mind and it'll mena you'll get some more sleep to help you deal with the MS (I had it bad too so I sympathise) Sounds like a positive for everyone.

He'll get there with being dry at night times eventually but now doesn't seem like the time to push it.

Blatherskite · 22/01/2011 20:15

Ooh and I trick I heard for night training is to dress the bed twice - so waterproof sheet, sheet, waterproof sheet, sheet - so that if/when he wets the bed, all you have to do is whip off the top layers and you're done. No remaking the bed in the middle of the night. It gets them back to bed faster so it's less disrupting.

I know he'll still likely be upset but it's one less thing to worry about.

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