To feel in charismatic DH's shadow?

[wintersnow]

Dh is very charismatic and charming - not in a smarmy sense rather people are really drawn to him as he's kind, funny, down to earth and outgoing as well as being very good looking. Whenever we are around other people I tend to get ignored, people listen to him and find him so engaging I might as well not be there - even with my friends & family. I try to get a look in in conversations but people are so much more interested in him, even if we repeat the same thing! My female friends seem very smitten & wide eyed when he's around and he becomes best buddies with my male friends.

I know I may sound either A. like an ungrateful bitch or B. like I have no confidence in myself.

Aibu to feel in his shadow (a bit)?

Mention it to him in a nice way. He could easily bring you into the conversation by including you in what he is saying, and when his adoring fans are hanging onto his every word, he can say "winter thinks...... dont you?" as he turns to you then all eyes will be on you!

Tell him how you feel so that he is aware of it.

It sounds like you have a wonderful DH :-D I think that you are much more amazing than you give yourself credit for.

My DH is much more confident and outgoing than I am, but I like that because I don't want the interaction.

But when my closest friend comes round, I sometimes have to have a word with him afterwards cos I find myself sitting there not saying anything when I actually want to.

I can just shoot him a look now and he knows what it means

You need to have a word.

Thank you guys!

Have just had a baby and two other DC's under 5 so am feeling a bit un-charismatic myself at the moment.

He doesn't do it on purpous, he is just very friendly so I didn't want to give him a complex by saying anything

Take some satisfaction in the fact that this lovely bloke chose you :o

Not that I'm saying he did all the choosing lol, but you get what I mean

After all, better a thread like this, than;

AIBU- DH is a total dullard- ugly one at that, and all my friends hate him

:o

It doesnt sound like he is doing it on purpose.. some people just do end up being the centre of attention because they are genuinely funny nice people and he sounds that way.. but I can understand how you could end up feeling like "the little woman" next to him.. I am sure if you explained, or even showed him this thread, he would understand and try to bring you into the conversations more.