To be a bit pissed off about this gift?!

[wizardora]

I had DS3 6 weeks ago, my two stepsisters who are in their early twenties came to visit him for the first time today and brought me a pot of stretch mark cream, I feel a bit and not sure whether I am being over sensitive... AIBU to think it's a rude/odd gift?!

I don't know them too well though... We aren't close

Is it an expensive stretch mark cream? Maybe someone they know recommended it as being superduper miraculous.

I'm sure it was meant as a thoughtful useful gift :-S

When they have babies buy them some cream for their piles!!

My cuz bought me some of that mama mio stretch mark cream and I thought that was great tbh. But that's probably because it's expensive and smells amazing - and possibly because she was already a mum and had been there.

Everyone says 'don't buy impractical gifts for new mums, they already have a million pairs of baby bootees' so they were probably trying to give you something they thought you might use. Though I can see that the implication is a bit

6 weeks after the birth I would say it's shutting the door after the horse bolted, but it's not a bad gift, at least it's something for you.

MY SIL sent me stretchmark cream and oil when I was pg, it was one she had used (not that pot obviously) and liked and it was bloody useful. Perhaps a bit odd from a childless giver.

Unless they have previous, I'd assume that they "meant well", though if that was the only thing they brought I'd think they were a bit "unusual"!

Porcelain

What cream was it??

its an odd gift

how do they even know if you have SM?

I wouldn't get too offended, as it's DS3 they may have been wondering what they could get you that you wouldn't already have and then decided that it might be nice to get something for you.

I feel your pain.
When mil came to visit for ds1s Christening, she brought me a gift of underpants, size 22.
I was a size 16, now I am a size 14.

But I think they just wanted to get you something nice, for YOU.

Aww I think it's nice and for ds3 too.

I got loads of gifts for me and the baby when I had ds1, when I had ds2 I got nothing, not even a card so a tub of stretchmark cream would have Made me well happy.

As someone who doesn't have children, and has a pregnant SIL to buy things for, I would say it is really hard to know what to get! I want to get my SIL things that show I'm excited about her baby, but I also want to make her feel good as a new mum, ie., I don't want to just get her things for the baby.

I'm not about to buy her stretchmark cream, but I would love to buy her something nice for herself, and it is remarkably hard to think of something that couldn't be misconstrued!

Eg:

• Chocolate - what, are you saying I'm a fat pig who only wants to eat now?!
• Creams, potions etc. - so you think I'm so ugly I need grooming advice?!
• perfume - ditto, plus the baby might hate it.
• lovely clothes - impossible; sizing is a minefield.
• a pretty scarf/shawl - will get covered in baby sick/suggests she's too fat for normal clothes.
• good book: you think I have time to read?!

Honestly, it is quite hard to think. I expect your step-sisters were racking their brains for something that'd show they understood that your pregnancy was a big event in your life, but also would be nice for you as a person, not just a mum.

I only got one present for me when I had DS. It was a mini bottle of champagne and some new mum bubble bath from a friend. I thought that was lovely. When I had DD I got nothing for me.

YABU to complain about a gift for you. Think they were just trying to be kind to you and got it a bit wrong.

Thanks for the replies, I guess it was a gift they thought would be useful and thought it would be nice to get something for me as well as DS

Well, I do see where you're coming from so thanks for showing me what not to do!