Short back story - My mum had an uncle who had lived all his life in yorkshire, actually in the same house for 70 years. He was her dad's brother, and for as long as I can remember(I'm 38)and for many years before that, he always came to visit for two weeks in the summer and 1-2 weeks at christmas.
During the last 8 years or so, there had been a growing attitude from my mum's 4 brothers and sisters that they didn't want him staying with them, ruining their family christmas, blah,blah. My mum never felt like this, so consequently, he stayed with her. This uncle was one of the kindest, loveliest people you could meet.Easygoing, happy to go along with whatever you were doing or not doing. My sister, myself and my mum loved seeing him, as did our children.
Sadly, he died last week, having had a heart attack on the way home. My mum and one of her sisters spent the last two weeks back and forth between west sussex and london, and eventually were told there was nothing that could be done.
This is the part I'm disgusted and so fucking angry about. My mum went up to yorkshire with said sister, talked to other relatives and his best friend of many years. They agreed he would want to be cremated and have his ashes put with his parents. Rest of family told this was what was going to happen. Other sister decides that it would be better to cremate down here in sussex, away from where he's lived and the people he spent the majority of his life with. It's decided to 'vote' on it, and my mum is the only one who sticks with yorkshire. These people could not give a shit about him when he was alive, and now can't be arsed to make one trip to yorkshire to respect what a dead man would have wanted. You can be sure they won't refuse their share from his house being sold - they are the only five named in the will. Iam so sad that there is not much I can do, I haven't spoken to my mum yet, so not sure where the ashes are going, better be yorkshire! Rant over.