to think that if your furniture isnt immaculate and decoration isnt imaccualte people let there kids run riot in your house?

[bettiejane]

I have a 3yr old dd and whenever I have her friends round with their Mums , they just don't seem to care!
We are doing out house up so its not beautifully decorated and looks a bit tatty ,as done some of our furniture etc.

Whenever I have people and their kids round they just don't seem to care that their dc has spilt pineapple juice all over my floor,emptied rabbit food all over the kitchen floor,put crumbs all over the place etc,etc, I am sure you all know what I mean!

When I go to other peoples houses I am very conscious of the fact not to let my dd jump on the sofa,make too much of a mess,etc.

Is it just me????

Do you think it is because our house isnt perfect they just dont think I care about my home and mess etc??

It annoys me too. I always make sure if my kids make a mess they tidy it up before we leave, shame my friends don't think to do that too. Is not going to bother anymore lol

It could be bettie or it could just be that they let there kids run riot no matter who's house there in because there not the one who has to clean it up?

Some people let their own children run riot everywhere they go, including at home, and then they just have a masisve clear up every night.

I don't do this. my children tidy up the front room by themselves. i did not make the mess, they have functional limbs, ergo, I am not cleaning it up. They tidy their own stuff.

There is nothing like two little boys who are facing a clean up job to galvanise their friend's mother with shame, by saying "YOu can't leave us to clean all this up, this is REALLY MESSY and we didn't do it!"

I've never come across any parents like this, they are all very concerned if their child makes a mess. My house is very much messy 'lived in'.

Another thing is that alot of the time ,there homes are immaculate grrrrrr!

No matter the state of your furniture - your house, your rules. Plus it's not very respectful of them to allow their kids to behave like that in other peoples' homes, regardless of what they are allowed to do in their own.

My house is immaculate...makes no difference to some parents! Last time I had friends over, my house got trashed, food all over the floor and toys strewn everywhere. Kids were allowed to run through the house with muddy wellies. Only one of the other parents helped me to tidy up, the rest just left with barely a thank you.

When I am out and about, I clean/tidy up after my DD (she is 2.5 and starting to help me) but many people see no problem leaving piles of food on the table and floor behind them.

Some people just don't give a sh*t, unless it's their house!

My house is not always immaculate, but it is my house, I have worked hard for it and value the posessions I have managed to gather over the years together with DH. The other day my dad spilt half a cup of coffee all the way up my cream stair carpet and just said 'get used to it - when the baby comes your whole house will get trashed' (I am 20 week pregnant)

This made me really cross, as its not like now i'm having a baby I don't want to have a nice house any more. Grrrr. Can see why you'd be pissed off OP.

My friend's son has been taught that he doesn't have to eat his dinner if it gets dropped on the floor. Reasonable as I would expect anyone to eat off the floor.

However he gets sweets before every meal, doesn't want to eat the meal and will randomly shout 'whoops I dropped it, can't eat it now' after pretending to drop a meal I've cooked, on one of my breakable plates all over my floor. It's sooo obviously not an accident and my friend never says a word.

I stopped inviting them round.

Why would your newborn be carrying a cup of coffee? Are you one of those 'Starbucks' mammies from a different thread?

But yes, very annoying.

I don't invite people over if they don't teach their children to respect other people's homes (accidents happen I accept that)

I agree with coldtits, my ds's have to clear up their own mess and it was great the other week when my friend was over and her 6 year old ds proceeded to just empty every toy box out and my ds shouted "I hope you plan on picking all that up XXXX because I'm not tidying up after you"

I think you are right bettiejane. My house is run down and we have hand me down furniture that doesn't look great, but is functional and we take care of it. We don't have the money to do our houses up like our friends. I find that when people come round they don't seem to try and stop their kids from messing up my house and doing stuff that they wouldn't let them get away with in their own house e.g not taking shoes off, letting them jump on the sofa and throw toys around.

I don't say stuff, but I think I'm gonig to have to, they may think my sofa is a pile of crap and their child jumping on it isn't going to affect it, but it's got to last me another few years so please stop them.

The worst offender is actually my SIL. In her house she has very strict rules for the kids, but I think because I'm a bit more relaxed about things than she is she takes the piss at mine.

I had a 'friend' round once, more of an aquaintance really, and her son was wild. I leave things as they are, my ds was taught to mind things and be careful. I knew this little boy was going to go out of his way, behind the sofa and take a little duck ornament off the window table. I asked friend to mind him as it was the only ornament I give house room to, I love it.

Went to kitchen, came back with tray of coffee and the broken duck in lying on the fireplace, she doesn't say a word.

I asked her to leave.

absolutely true. lived in a slightly scruffy and neglected (but kept as clean as i could manage) rented property once, where friends of housemate used to trash the place. Drop McDonalds wrappers on floor etc . When i spoke up, they had a go at me stating 'it's only a rented property'! to this day, my blood boils thinking of this!

if your place is dishevelled for whatever reason, you want to make the best of it , don't you ? not make it worse. why do others take it as license to treat it like a dosshouse just cos your landlord is a bit neglectful. Had this in many houseshares. I know if id OWNED any of the properties, it would never have happened.

I get fed up with children coming round and trashing my house! Kids these days seem to have a real sense of entitlement about what they can touch and where they can go, and lack respect.

One 6 year old visitor recently decided it would be a good idea to take all of DD's clean,ironed clothes out of her wardrobe, scrunch them up into balls and pack them into various bags and a trunkie. We've also had kids going into mine and DH's room and pulling all the bedding off the bed, and a friend of DD1's kicking her newly-painted bedroom wall repeatedly. Oh and in the summer a friend of DD1's came round; they had lunch, a pudding, an ice lolly and a piece of fruit each and she was insistent she was still hungry. I said there was nothing else on offer and she went into the garden and repeatedly kicked the fence shouting that she hated it at my house.

Bloody kids! Mine are not angels by any means but I like to think I've instilled a bit of respect and good manners into them, and that they behave reasonably well at other peoples' houses

When my kids were young and they had friends over they took their shoes off as they came in, as requested, and drinks/biscuits etc,. were only had in the kitchen. I be fuffed if Id let kids in my lounge with food or drink.

Toys only ever in their bedrooms. The lounge is for lounging.

Yeah, we had a party here when one of the kids were about 6. The guests were milling around the house while we waiting for everyone to arrive. Then I realised that couple of the boys were bouncing on my bed ! When I was that age you wouldn't even go into your friends' parents rooms, never mind start bouncing on the bed. When we announced games were starting downstairs, these boys said they weren't interested, obviously thinking they could just rampage round our house rather than play pass-the-parcel.

Next party, we locked our room, and as they got older and more kids refused to join in with activities, we stopped having parties at the house.