to get really pissed at my 30th birthday party?

[igetmorelovefromthecat]

Here's my dilemma.

Having a big party for my 30th in a few weeks time. DD2 is still breastfed, she will be 7.5 months at the time of the party. She is a bugger for sleeping, and needs resettling several times during the night - the only way I have been able to do this is by feeding her back to sleep.

But....I so so so so want to have more than one bloody drink. It's my 30th ffs. And I've been so good for what seems like forever now.

Obviously I would never do anything to harm dd - but would really like some opinions of what others would do in my position.

Maybe pump some milk and store it in the days leading up to the party. Arrange for someone to care for your baby during the party. Go to your party. Get tiddly. Pump again when you have been drinking and don't feed that milk to your baby. I've done this a couple of times although it was after 2 glasses of wine and not a real skinfull. Sure someone else has some more advice / experience!

can you not express some a few days before and freeze/refridgerate some? :)

I would, I have, You should.

I haven't had children (yet) and I didn't get hammered at my 30th. I had a maximum of 2 and I do that anyway. Not a big drinker. Why is it that you can't enjoy your 30th without a copious amount of alcohol.

Ah yes, crucial bit I forgot to mention - I can't express. All I can manage to get is a thimble full - I think my supply is too regulated now. So that's not an option.

I don't think I will be drinking loads, when I say I want to get really pissed I think that will involve 3 or 4 drinks tops. After 18 months of only having one drink very rarely, I don't think it will take much for me to feel tipsy!

When I was breastfeeding there were a couple of special occasions when I got rather drunk (to be fair it's quite easy to get drunk on a small amount when you've been so good for so long), probably once or twice with each baby, I wouldn't make a habit of it but I felt it was ok as a one off.

Have a great party!

if you can't express then would you be feeding your baby yourself?

so what? alcohol does not work in bm the way most people think it does, its really not a problem to drink.

God, don't worry about it.
Get pissed (not legless obv) and just feed her anyway.
I frankly would have died without copious maounts of wine when with young children.

Tiktok has many very reassuring words on breastfeeding and drinking. Very little of the alcohol crosses.

I couldn;'t think of anything more shite than a sober 30th.

That's what I am trying to work out candlebythewindow - I think unless I FF I will have to feed her myself (probably at many points during the night).

Do you think I should try and give her some formula (no idea if she will even take it atm) so I can FF her if she wakes during the party and the next morning? Don't really want to FF her at all but I don't know what would be better/worse - boozy breastmilk or formula!

personallyyyy i would only FF if you were getting properly wrecked if you're not keen on FFing... like mega mega drunk. like lightmorelovefromthecat said if you've not been drinking much anyway it won't take much for you to really feel it!

moondog (and buzzlightbeer and knownothing).

So a one off won't harm her then?

I have given up drinking, smoking and sex thanks to dd2. So surely I can be a bit bad just for one night!

God yes.
I gave up none of those either.

Had the occasional fag, gave the odl man a seeing too now and again.

All good stuff.

Have a good one.

If she's never had formula before she'll sleep like a log that night, sadly it only seems to work once :(

I don't think either the odd bottle of formula, or the occasional night of slightly boozy breast-milk will do her any harm.

Have a great birthday party.

Have fun on your birthday and be a bit good. Organise a massive night out for your 31st

YANBU - She'll be fine. You won't be able to drink much before you're totally legless/asleep and not much alcohol actually gets through to breast milk. I fed DD back to sleep after my hen night

don't be a bit good. Be bad! Its motherhood, not martyrdom!

For gawds sake ...... she's 7.5 months so in the lead up to your party get her used to a bottle (be it formula or breast milk) and get a bloody baysitter! Or, if she must be at the party then designate a responsible adult ..... who isn't you!! This is where doting Grandparents, Aunties, Uncles, etc. come into their own.
She will be fine ..... you are entitled to have some fun and she will not be harmed by a bottle (or you feeding her when squiffy!).

Have a fabulous birthday!!

Brilliant! I will have a few drinks and not beat myself up about it then.

I don't think it will take much anyway, I had a cider last night and drank it a bit quick, and I could barely stand for about half an hour afterwards. It's like being 14 again!

I was pregnant on my 30th. Gutted really as I was planning a huge one

Have a few drinks and not worry too much

If I had planned a night out to have a few drinks I had some ready made formula and a bottle by the bed just in case. Never really needed it tho..