to miss my pre-ds job horribly?

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pre-ds I was a duty manager in a (then) very popular hotel, bar, restaurant. I progressed from waitress to restaurant manager, was offered a new job in a different business, then was contacted by the first business to take on the duty managers job. I had a lot of responsibility, it was a small chain, and I was responsible for menus, events, staff training, health and safety, purchasing and stock control for all 4 businesses, but focussing on the flagship.

I was bloody good at it and I loved it. I started waitressing at 14 and never planned to stop working when ds was born. but post-op complications left me with ill health and severe PND. I tried to go back into waitressing but my ribs (teitze's) means that I cant carry plates or clear tables. in fact, my condition means I cant work because of the amount of pain I'm in 95% of the time.

Im feeling a little sorry for myself. I had a job I loved, and that I was very, very good at, and because of my problems I will not physically be able to do it.

ach, ignore me. Im just moaning.

yanbu at all. This must be really hard for you.

Yanbu of course you would miss it, try to look on the postive side though you had a great career one that most people could only dream of doing in there lifetime and now you have a ds :)

Is there anything else that intrests you eg writing, that you could do at home in spare time just to give you another goal in life.

I think I just feel that I hadnt quite finished with it yet IYKWIM. Ive tried other jobs but Ive never enjoyed them as much.

How long will you have this condition for - can it get better? Does anything like physiotherpy help.

You must have great people skills - thinking how you could use them.

unfortunatly its a progressive condition, the cartilige connecting the ribs to the sternum and spine swells up and pushes the ribs out, this in turn effects the shoulders, arms, muscles and nerves. meaning I cant grip or even fill a kettle most days. and my painkillers make me slow and stupid.

Of course YANBU. Before DD I was a nurse. I haven't worked for ten years but my circumstances are different.

YANBU.

Your condition sounds awful and very frustrating. I know this thread is not about your condition, but have you explored a range of alternatives? Chiropractic or a good Osteopath could possibly help with managing some of these symptoms (probably not the condition over all) but enough that you could get back into something in due course?

Keep thinking big - if you had a job like that before when you are wel enough to go back to work, you can get something similar. Those skills do not fade or go out of fashion.

what about a silent managerial role? could you not sort all this stuff out from home and the organise and deligate the work from home?

thank you all. the problem is that the company I worked for went beankrupt a year ago, and the majority of hotels around here are chain businesses. I've also been out of the loop for a while. I was asked by an old workmate to go and help him establish the restaurant and train their staff a couple of years back. I went, and it was great, but I had to stop because I was getting huge flare ups.

everty now and then I get flashes of the person that I was, and I miss her.

lissielou - don't know what to say about what you have as it sounds very awful.
yanbu to miss yourself. I'm on crutches and can't do what I usually do and don't know for how long and it's been hard for me to have to give up some of my sahm role to someone else.
The restaurant setup training you did sounds good and with people having less & less free cash it's the better restaurants that last. When you know how good you are at something and have that inner drive that you have you will succeed.

thank you. am watching michael roux's service at the mo, i miss everything about it. even the shite hours and i miss being really really good at something.