to really want another baby?

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Name changed for this. I think I probably am BU, but could do with being told I am to hopefully stop me thinking about this!

Have wanted another baby for a while, but has got worse recently, as I seem to be surrounded by pregnancies! Heard today one of my friends is pregnant, this adds to the other 2 I already now about. And 2 ladies at work.

It all makes me think how I would dearly love another baby. HOWEVER:

1. I am single, no men on the horizon nor likely to be for the foreseeable;
2. I am nearly 40;
3. I have a huge mortgage and couldn't afford to take anything but the basic maternity leave, nor afford childcare (my DC are old enough to no longer need childcare, so thats an expense I dont currently have)

It's silly isn't it? From a practical point of view I can't have a baby without a man - and even if I did find one by the time our relationship is established it would be too late :( Just feel so envious of my friends who are expecting, and can't help wishing I was in their position.

Feel for you - You are not yet 45 so there may be time to find or be found by the right man (more likely than having your mortgage paid off)

It's hard when even the best TV programmes are about child birth!

Maybe it's best to think along the lines of you were lucky to have the children you did...and we cant always have everything we want.

I bet there are 1000s of parents who feel the same as you OP, even if they aren't single...sometimes it's difficult to accept the door is firmly shut on the oven!

45...I always saw 40 as my cutoff. Maybe it's not as late in the day as I thought!

Is true I am blessed with the DC I already have, and I am very grateful. But just one more would be nice.

GP friend in London sees more pregnant woman in their 40's than 20's