having a "fit of peek"

[MatureUniStudent]

that the mortgage hasn't been paid by the ex. That's what he told me when I got the letters from the mortgage company. That I was throwing a childish strop to be so worried that the mortgage company have now written twice and phoned to tell me my "home may be at risk if we do not keep mortgage payments up etc". Mortgage is now nearly a month behind and I am having sleepless nights due to the worry. Am I living on some alternative universe - wouldn't any normal rational human be worried sick if a mortgage payment hadn't been made?

no YANBU, but I think its "pique"

Dooh/D'oh/groan - it was how he spelt it. Not a word I tend to use.

Has he actually given you a reason why he hasn't paid it? I know, it's probably an irrelevent question...you aren't being unreasonable and have the right to be worried.

He spent it on "other people". His children are not and have never been his priority.

I shouldn't be suprised if a thread begins in Pedants corner regrding your 'peek'.

sorry about that I'm not usually a pedantic person. He is being a prat, no-one in their right mind would NOT be worried that the mortgage hasnt been paid.

I don't know the circumstances of your split, or whether he had been paying the mortgage voluntarily or through a court order. I don't think you have come here for advice on the matter anyway so I shall shut up :)

I didn't come for advice - The title of this is "am I being unreasonable" and having been told I was having a fit of pique over the mortgage not being paid, I wanted independant clarification I was not living in a parallel universe by being so worried about this.

are you both named on it or just him?

if you are both named then ring them NOW, and explain.
ask for a payment holiday or something... don't just sit and let him do this

if he pays it then good, but if not you'll have got it sorted

and no yanbu!

That's what I thought, I did think there maybe some help for you beyond this but soon realised that isn't what you needed or wanted, I apologise.

No you aren't being unreasonable by being worried. As everyone else has said, you would be silly not to be worried!

YANBU

YANBU and would be worrying too in your situation.