to think that the most important thing we can equip our children with is resiliance and some parents need to GET A GRIP!!

[alfiesmadmother]

I am sick to the back teeth of parents at school hovering around their children in the classrom, posting on Facebook things like 'My poor DD is so upset she fell out with her friend I find this so painful'! or 'I wish I could bear the pain and upset at school for my children.'

You are doing your children NO FAVOURS!!

Let your children be!!!!! Your child is 10 years old he does not want Mummy fighting his battles for him.

Grrrrr.

Its inherent within the very soul of my being to protect my child.

It would be like not breathing if i stood aside and let some little shit hurt him.....

But sigh, its about drawing the line and looking at the big picture, looking ahead at his future.

I need for him to be independant, i need for him to be self sufficient, i need for him to know that there are shits out there who need to be dealt with when they cross his path.

But he also needs to know that i can be there to support and comfort him.

It is THE most difficult challenge in his 7th year of life for me.
Every year there is something new!!

One of the many reasons I do not do FB.

Too much bleating by those who assume ohters are interested in the minutae of their dull lives.
Not suprising that these folk think the world is interested in the minutae of their children's.

you do learn which ones need intervention and which ones you let go - you learn by experience not to get involved with other mums unless you have too if your child won't stick up for themselves try some self confidence training or judo - or Margeret in your case i would get siblings to help out - my bros hated each other but they stuck up for each other in the playground.

YANBU i think a lot of mums are ruining their kids by pampering them way too much - and as for facebook - it can be the devil in disguise .....

I help my nearly 8 ds with his coat, however he does have sn, and in a mainstream school, some parents may not realise he has sn, and think i am being over the top by helping, but i am not about to explain to people i dont know why i help.

although i dont post on fb about it

YANBU at all totally agree

sure some parents think i dont give a fig.mine are twins 12yrs old and a 4yr old and seem to have alot more freedom etc than others their age,especially as i dont drive so alot of the time they get from a to b themselves

YANBU - it drives me nuts that when parents carry all their children's stuff, even taking it off them when they quite happily come out of school carrying it themselves. You eventually get children who come out of the classroom and dump it at their parents' feet! I spend my whole year encouraging my Year R's to deal with their own coats in the mornings, but sooo many parents do it all for them. Do they really think I do it all during the day? Absolutely not! And guess what? The children do it for themselves without a murmur!!! By the end of the first half term they're even (shock horror!) managing to get undressed and changed for PE by themselves and get dressed again at the end of the lesson.

My DS1 used to play the tuba in the local schools brass band. The thing was huge, but managable in a case on wheels. He always wanted me to drag it along after practice. I always refused, even though he winged, because it was his tuba and he was 12 and perfectly capable of pulling it along himself. Nearly all the other kids just handed their instruments to their parents, who dutifully carried their darling off spring's things like lackeys!!!!

Which is why I would never ever want to look at my DC facebook pages. As it happens DS1 never uses his and DD just deleted her account because she didn't use it and the emails were pissing us all off.

I DON'T WANT TO KNOW because I will blow it all up out of all proportion and I hope (flatter myself?)that I would notice if my DC were upset enough to need intervention and/or they would tell me.