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To be a bit shocked by the brass neck of this GP?!

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mistressploppy · 17/01/2011 21:34

DH went to the GP the other day and as he was leaving she said 'sorry...I don't usually do this...would you like to go for a drink sometime?' Shock

He mumbled something and pointed to his wedding ring!

He came home and told me very sheepishly, but I think he's secretly delighted Grin

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ledkr · 17/01/2011 21:48

I think it is almost certainly professional misconduct as it is for nurses?
DH is a copper and had to attend a local school recently.When he had left a PUPIL ran out after him to give him the TEACHERS phone no.He was wearing a wedding ring.Cant believe there are women predadtors like this.I am pg and feeling all fat and unattractive so wanted to go and punch her on her nose Grin

onimolap · 17/01/2011 21:51

If it happened as reported, it definitely means major trouble with the GMC (whether locum or not),

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mistressploppy · 17/01/2011 21:53

He was seeing the GP to get pills to stop him freaking out when he gets on an aeroplane! Grin

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GreenEyesandHam · 17/01/2011 21:55

He was seeing the GP to get pills to stop him freaking out when he gets on an aeroplane!

I can see why she found him so strong and sexy :o

Awww just take it as a compliment

Honeydragon · 17/01/2011 21:59
Grin
2rebecca · 17/01/2011 22:01

Having an affair with a married patient would mean major trouble with the GMC. Asking a patient out and being turned down would just be a slapped wrist and the GMC would probably wonder why the patient had complained if the GP then did nothing else, after all the man isn't registered with this doc and if he had been single the GP could not have seen him again as a patient and ensured she didn't work in his practice as a locum again. I agree she should have spotted the wedding ring and she sounds more silly and naive than reportable. Here in Scotland there are many areas where there only is 1 practice in the area to register with so if you are an unmarried GP you are likely to end up going out with someone who is your patient.
It is inappropriate and GMC material to start an affair with someone you know is married who is your patient though, or to start a relationship with someone you are counselling for psychological problems as they would be seen as vulnerable.

Changeisagoodthing · 17/01/2011 22:01

You can though be asked out by your Childs consultant!!!!

WhasThisAllAbout · 17/01/2011 22:25

It is fairly unprofessional, however I'd be pretty chuffed with my sexy husband!!

However, I (nosy) clicked your profile to see if there were any pictures of him (just, you know, to check out the docs judgement Wink )and see your picture of you with the brand new baby and your work dress....I feel I need to hear this story!! What a gorgeous boy by the way!

Alison7 · 17/01/2011 22:39

I can't BELIEVE you're even considering this is true!! :-)

Think about it. Wearing a wedding ring for starters. And even without that doctors get into serious trouble for this in THIS context and wouldn't even think about it. Just not very likely, is it?

finalstoland · 18/01/2011 10:45

I am a doctor and I'm absolutely appalled by the ignorant braindead stupidity of some of these comments.

I would suggest the husband concerned probably has a very very fragile ego and needed it propping up.

This is a very serious accusation to make [especially with such a dishonest ambulance chasing culture prevalent now] and can have family and life wrecking consequences for a doctor - because in my experience any ignorant airhead male or female patients can make a stupid and groundless accusation and it isn't usually the doctors version that is believed.

Because patients never lie do they????

So ask your husband to either back it up or risk being sued for slander and defamation by the dr [both of which quite rightly can carry prison sentences]..

''so she must have fancied the pants off him''

Oh my god are there really women that stupid and devoid of cerebral capacity out there????

mutznutz · 18/01/2011 10:48

Oh get real Lmao!

How can they be sued for slander or defamation without naming the bloody locum?

sethstarkaddersmackerel · 18/01/2011 10:54

why do people in professions so often assume that everyone else in that profession is completely ethical and above board? Hmm There are rules, sometimes they get broken.

none of us was there or even know either of the individuals involved (except for OP) which makes it completely impossible to judge either way.

Onetoomanycornettos · 18/01/2011 11:58

Although you might think it unlikely and it certainly is unprofessional, people do strange things all the time, teachers have affairs with under-age pupils, nurses have sex with their patients (been a few cases recently) and academics sleep with the undergraduates. None of it is ethical, but it's not beyond the bounds of possibility that someone might risk a small breach, like asking someone out. Of course, the man could be lying, but it's a funny thing to lie about and if he has no history of such lying, I would believe him (I would believe my husband if he told me this story!)

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mistressploppy · 18/01/2011 12:25

Heh hehe - ONLY on Mumsnet!

@ finalstoland; I started a thread about a genuine event in my life which I found quite funny. My DH could be lying, but I doubt it. He is (unfortunately) NOT lacking in ego Grin. But that is beside the point. The Dr concerned was a locum, and perhaps she thought 'I'm never coming back to this practise; why not?' Pretty daft, but as Onetoomany says, people do daft things all the time.

I have not threatened to report or identify the doctor, or even hinted that I was remotely cross! And yet, I have been threatened with defamation and slander and DH called an ignorant airhead, and other posters on the thread have been branded 'braindead'!

Judging by your post, finals, I venture that perhaps my DH is not the only one who could be described as 'very very fragile'.....Smile

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StealthPolarStuckSpaceBar · 18/01/2011 12:29

how weird

fel1x · 18/01/2011 12:32

She would have had his notes up during his appt, which would have said he was married.
I doubt she really asked him out otherwise she would be quite crazy to do so and be risking her whole career!

justcarrots29 · 18/01/2011 12:34

If he was going to lie I am sure he could come up with something better!! Was she nearly retired maybe and fancied a toy boy fling??? Wink

I think it was very odd to do it in the consultation room - but sounds like she needs a boyfriends for Valentine's day!

Doigthebountyeater · 18/01/2011 12:35

I want to know what your husband looks like! Put a photo of him up so we can see if he is irresistable! Grin

thumbdabwitch · 18/01/2011 12:47

DAft locum - but she probably only did it because she was a locum and he wasn't going to continue to be a patient of hers. Still a risk though and she should have checked his marital status more carefully.

It is very unprofessional but not beyond the bounds of belief that it happened, or could happen.

Not worth reporting though! That way madness lies...

HotSprocket · 18/01/2011 13:16

I believe him ploppy Grin

And i have seen a picture so i am in the know...

CURLYMAMMA · 18/01/2011 13:20

I don't believe it

CURLYMAMMA · 18/01/2011 13:22

I don't believe him

CURLYMAMMA · 18/01/2011 13:23

Sorry, didn't mean to post twice.

ashamedandconfused · 18/01/2011 13:27

OMG OP, thats very odd

there are more subtle ways she could have gone about it if she fancied getting to know him better (aside from him being married!)- she had access to his address, could have engineered to break down outside your house and have to summon DH for help, and take him for a thank you drink etc etc

at least your DH told you!

I hope shes not the stalker-type!

Honeydragon · 18/01/2011 13:47

how does a doctor know from notes whether you are married or not? My Dh hasn't been to the gp in years probably since before we wedded so how are they meant to know?