....to be feeling unfairly got at?

[breastbadger]

At the weekend, I put a ink to this blog as my fb status. I'm a local peer supporter and do feel strongly about the shocking media coverage that this has generated, but have honesty NEVER made any judgey / derogatory / ff-bashing comments online or in rl.

I'm also a Neonatal nurse, so part of my job is gently supporting women in any feeding choice they make.

So......I was a bit surprised to get this email from a male friend. This is it, nothing edited out. Apparently a letter in The Times.

AIBU for being a bit pissed off? Was my link really that offensive? Is friend having a dig or not?

Women are rarely given sensible tips on establishing breastfeeding during ante-natal classes

Sir, In an ideal world every baby would breastfeed and reap the enormous benefits from the process. But it?s not that simple. When people take up polarised positions, all they are doing is to make it more difficult for mothers (report, Jan 15).
Women are rarely given sensible tips on establishing breastfeeding during ante-natal classes. Instead of simple guidance, they are sold an illusion of warm bonding with the baby while breastfeeding.
As a paediatrician, I constantly see this struggle mothers go through. When you are feeling vulnerable, any head-shaking is seen as terrible criticism. This is when an unbiased view is helpful, not shrill badgering.
Dr Shyla Jehangir
Cockermouth, Cumbria

And yes, ironic name. Glad it wasn't wasted.

but you "perfunctorily" put your opinion out there, didn't you ?

so, yes, oversensitive and a tad insensitive but that is just my opinion (and probably a whoooole other thread... (that has been done to deff )

irony is never wasted ...

you have not been oversensitive

why shouldn't you be allowed to express your opinion! and if people feel 'got at' that is not your fault or problem

you can only be affected by something if you let yourself be

you should not feel bad about posting bf issues on your wall or anywhere else. you have not bashed ff or anyone who ff's you are just talking about bf!

why should you be made to feel bad for talking about it! there can never be a talk on bf and ff without a fight it seems and people cannot say too much about bf as it is often deemed an insult to ff?!

but everyone on fb puts their opinion out there, it doesnt mean it is an invite to bash people for it! it is not like she posted it on aibu for a debate!

Yep, see your point AF, but genuinely confused by what this bloke's point was. Hence asking for a mumsnet opinion.

he didnt have one!

what the heck does the comment have to do with the blog?

who knows?!

of course you can bang on about breast feeding all day long if you wish (why you would do that is beyond me, but each to their own...)

but by putting it on a public site, you invite comment, and you might not like all of it so feeling "got at" is a trifle OTT

just like Mumsnet, in fact

that is all I am saying

can we get a cherry on that trifle?!

Again, see your point AF, but my fb is not public.

And don't worry TheFallenMadonna, discussion will ensue. Thanks.

your fb is not public ?

that changes matters somewhat

so I see your point now

Look - you posted something on a semi-public site (and although it's not public, obviously some people can read it - that's the point!), someone who read it got hold of the wrong end of the stick, you now get to explain your point better. That's it.

I still would like a cherry on that trifle

pleaseeeee

does not make friggin sense though...

x post! Sorry!

Men and breast-feeding...makes me itch

Hi
My blog piece is purely an examination of the paper that hit the headlines last week, and trying to break it down a little for confused parents who are coming up to starting solids age and unsure exactly what the paper said.

I also disagree and am a tad offended at the suggestion my blog is "anti formula". Because I acknowledge breastfeeding is the standard way to feed an infant, does NOT mean I judge other mothers, which this comment implies.

Many of my readers have formula fed previous children before managing to crack breastfeeding (as you will see from the comments on my articles) some wanted to breastfeed but it didn't work out and so formula feed or exclusively bottle feed breastmilk - and want to learn more for subsequent children. Some just wonder if there was a reason why and so are interested in reading things that can impact or how they can maximise their bottle feeding experience - as per this blog post:
www.analyticalarmadillo.co.uk/2010/10/boosting-bottle-feeding-bonding-5-top.html

Suggesting that giving evidence in a supportive, non judgmental way is "anti" something - only hinders parents getting the information and support they want or need, and serves to create further barriers between mums purely based on how they feed. Not positive for anyone.

Thanks all, mumsnet is wise as ever! [Grin]

I think you are brilliant AnalyticalArmadillo!

Bugger. Preview, ALWAYS preview.

have just had a thought

do you link your face book page hingy to Mumsnet ?

here are some strange blokes on here who try to tell us wimmin what we should/shouldn't be doing and that they have "experienced" birthing and bf-ing via their wives < ahem >

thingy