I am not unreasonable. Agree with me...

[tyzer2001]

DS (19) has the world's most annoying habit.

He will make himself a hot drink, and for some reason he is incapable of keeping all of the drink inside the cup during the process. So tea/coffee/milk slops everywhere and usually sugar spilt too. He will then wander off and leave this mess.

Annoying. But he's not finished yet.

He will then return and, assuming I have not spotted the mess and exploded at him asked him to clean it up, he will now wish to use the same area to make a sandwich. But the worktop is dirty of course!
So - instead of getting the dishcloth/sponge and clearing it up, what does he do?
He gets the tea-towel and spreads it on top of his mess and uses it as his sandwich making surface!!

Apparently my rage at this habit is misplaced and I am unreasonable...

YANBU sounds a lot like the actions of my DH

YANBU, isn't it time he left home?

Gah

YANBU. In future, if you see the sandwich in position on the tea towel, tip it on the floor as you walk by. Thus making your point by removal of a desired object. Parenting 101

sounds like my DH too, surprised theres any tea left in the cup by the time he has finished

ban him from making food or drinks in the kitchen unless he sorts the behaviour?

I wouldnt accept this from anyone. And Mrs Oliver - Your HUSBAND behaves like this? Jees demand some respect! Who do they think's job it is to clear it up??

Urgh! YANBU. I hope my DD doesn't read this. The tea towel thing might give her ideas...

Sounds exactly like my mother - I have the misfortune of living with her. Tea bag trails drive me round the bend!

By the way, I don't know if I agree with OP that this is the MOST annoying habit in the world. I had a lodger who used to take the washing up bowl out of the sink (nice greasy bottom sometimes) and put it down on a chair. WHY?!?

Ahhhh! You are definitely not BU!

Can't offer any advice. Guess it just goes in one ear and out the other! Grrr I'm annoyed now....

I think you should shoot him.

he needs my lecture on the "Difference between a TEA TOWEL & a DISHCLOTH, with specific reference to household bench wiping procedures".

After 3 years of cohabitation DP has nearly got it - nearly but not quite.

It's when they then take the tea towel used to wipe food/bench/floor etc & HANG IT BACK UP so an innocent may come along and use it for it's intended purpose, I want to explode

Needless to say all dishes get left to dry on the rack.

YANBU, DD makes endless cups of hot feckin chocolate, complete with squirty cream. Trying to get that stuff off your worktops is next to impossible.

YAclearlyNBU (except in not kicking him out of home by now )

Perhaps if he lived on his own for a while it might shake his belief in the washing-and-cleaning fairy?

This is fairly husbandly behaviour as well in my experience.

Makes my blood boil too.

when he moves out of home and gets his own place - you are welcome to take around sprinklings of sugar to sprawl across the work surface and mess like coke cans and wet towels, just to make him feel at home.

I am sure it is in their job description but thankfully at least he makes his own hot drinks and sarnies, a lot can't do it as they find it to difficult

yanbu.i have 3 ds all grown,i couldnt wait for them to sod off leave home due to crap like this,they are nice hard working boys but jeeeez.the worst was ds 2 who used to get really vile if i asked him to rectify things such as mouldy food plates in his room.They come and stay over now and then an im always stressed at the mess.

I can't kick him out, I need his money for the rent .

YADNBU. I agree with you.

DH is learning. Slowly. Wiping surfaces. Uses of a tea-towel. Along with wiping the sink when you finish and taking the manky bits of food out the plughole.

I have the 'sugar missing the mug' issue here too. Anyone else have the 'can't be bothered to fetch a knife so will just use the (one) breadknife to spread butter and jam etc' ?

Whatever you do you gotta sort it now else these horrid boys will turn in to the horrid husbands that some on here are descibing!

OP maybe you need to add a surface-and-tea-towel washing surcharge to his rent?