to think dds teacher could of been a bit more subtle

[mummypud]

Ok i know the party invites subject has been done to death , i have tried to be diplomatic even trying to tell dd who is going to be 5 not to tell everyone at school she is having a party as obviolsy we cannot invite everyone... so today i go in invites in hand and dd starts putting them into the drwars of the children,,, this is i thought a nice way to do it,
noooo aperntly teacher thinks giving them out in cirlce time is far better so the children not invited can see who is invited!
I may be silly but how is this a better way? i told the teacher my concerns but she said it was a good leaning curve for them, they are 5 year olds! i know my dd would be gutted if she didnt get an ivite even if only less than half the class were invited.

I can still remember (errrmmm years ago) age 6 being totally gutted about not being invited to a party - I can still see the class room the teacher with invites in hand and the oh please I hope I have an invite feeling. I wasn't the only one as it was an ice skating party ....Lots of upset children so that system was never used agin in my school !

I know Mommy - but not everyone can afford that! I know we won't be doing it - if DS wanted something like that it would have to be a present or a party i am afraid. Though I suspect that would cost more than he would have spent on a present lol! My ex was/is a childrens entertainer, last count he was £65 for his show - we honestly would not spend that on a present let alone extras! sorry that's digressing though - I can understand inviting the whole class if you are prepared to do hall/entertainer etc as does not cost any extra then - but I don't see why it has to be all or nothing tbh - like I said, in the schools I have worked in, we never had children have full class parties

I would of loved to invite the whole class, even the class rebel who i am not going to call a bully as at 4 it would be a bit harsh but she can be v agressive, i would never leave just one child out.. however the cost of hiring a hall , catering for 40 plus children , party bags, prizes etc plus entertainment would be way beyond our budget,we have got a room in the comunity centre, a very ropey disco and will do all the ctaering etc, it would not be fair for her to miss out just becasue she cannot invite the whole class, i think under half the class is accebtable and many of those are the ones she went to playschool with, but can you imagine if only two or three had been left out, i wonder how the teacher would of explained that to them... im interested to see how it all went,

By "circle time", she may mean the time at the end of the day with all children sat with bookbags ready while letters are handed out. If there were a variety to give out, not all children would be recieving all letters anyway (ie if they have siblings in the school already).

It could also be the way invites are done - you say there have been parties already this year, so maybe the children are used to invitations handed out at the end of the day?